I have a soon to be 6yr old daughter. That don't want to do anything. She is lazy. Has her older sister do everything. She whines and cries when ask to do something. I don't know what to do. How do i get her to do her chores.
2007-01-23 08:28:21 · 22 answers · asked by cheryl b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She knows what i am asking her to do.
2007-01-23 08:39:28 · update #1
She is also starting to tell me no. And gets mouthly with me. Sorry for the mispelled words and grammer.
2007-01-23 08:41:58 · update #2
sounds spoiled to me, start taking toys ect. away when she tells you no and eventually when she has nothing she will do as you say
2007-01-30 01:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 year old boy--- was trying to pull the same thing with chores and schoolwork. I had a conference with the teachers and his recess is taken away if he whines about his homework. At home we do not listen to whining and he has more chores if he does not do the ones he is suppose to do, plus the video games are taken away if he continues to whine and throw little fits. All in all I hear the same from all my friends with children the same age. It is a stage they go thru and we as parents can only try the best we can and hope they turn out ok... You are doing a great thing by asking the question...
2007-01-23 08:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Karlee bug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You put your foot down as a parent. If you let your kid walk all over you at the age of six, things will only get worse from here on out.
Offer privilages and rewards for completing chores, and offer punishments if certain things aren't done, and STICK TO YOUR WORD. If you say you will take away TV, take it away and don't cave in when your daughter cries or throws a tantrum. If you say you will take your daughter to the zoo, don't back out. The best thing to do is simply show strength and be firm, but never withold love.
If your daughter doesn't want to do something, the best thing you can tell her is, "Because I'm your mom/dad, and I say so. In this house what I say goes."
It will also help if you give your daughter certain things that she gets to decide. Ask her if she want milk or orange juice. Let her decide which shirt to wear in the morning. Give her ownership of certain parts of her life, and she won't be so angry about not having ownership over which chores she has to do.
2007-01-23 08:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by OMGWTFBBQ!!1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set boundaries for your daughter. Let her know that you will only accept a certain tone from her and demand respect. Take away her favorite things and implement rules that let her know her behavior will have consequences. Don't allow her to do the things she wants to do if she doesn't do what is asked and expected of her. Also speak with your other daughter about doing her sisters chores or things for her. Make it clear to her that you are the mother and not her, and it is not her responsibility to do for her sister unless it is something that you okay. If she persist, let her know that there are consequences for her actions as well. Good luck.
P.S. Implement time outs when she whines and by no means carry on any form of communications with her if she is whining. Let her know that form of communication is unacceptable, and no one likes a whiner. Tell her you absolutely will not talk with her if she whines, and she can't do anything else until you talk, then send her to time out for six minutes or so until she comes to you or you go to her and can talk without her whining.
2007-01-27 08:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are three ways you could approach this.
1. Rewarding- Every time your girl does her chores, put a sticker on her little calendar for that day. At the end of the month, count how many stickers she has- and give her a dollar for each sticker(or less). Take her to the store, and let her buy a toy or something with that money. That way, you're teaching her chores are the right way to go.
2. Punishment- Take away her toys if she doesn't do her chores or send her to time out. This will teach her that not spending time doing what she's supposed to will just give her even more time in the corner, or being bored.
3. Spanking- If she doesn't do her chores, she gets one swat. As simple as that.
2007-01-23 08:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Misswhatever 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to start now and make sure you stick to the punishment. If she doesn't do what she is told, hand out a punishment or take privileges away. Take away tv time, videos, play time or something she really enjoys doing. Tell her if she whines then more time will be added to the punishment. If you don't start now you will regret it when she gets older. She is old enough to understand that there will be consequences for her actions.
2007-01-28 13:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to do this with my 8 year old twin daughter and the other day she was being mouthy with me, i did something that completely changed her i took her TV and DVD player away she was gutted and as helped ever since, you need to have a large box, and tell your daughter if you refuse to help a toy will be taken until you earn them back reward her for good take toys games for bad, telling you it works well
good luck
2007-01-29 20:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Autism's Beautiful Face 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember YOU are the parent not her. so if she starts talking back or not doing anything then punish her take away things she like to do like watching TV playing with a favorite toy go ouside and play unless she does what ever you ask her to do.. And star being a little strong with her don't let her talk back to you you need to put a stop so she can know who is the boss at home ...GOODLUCK !!!!
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2007-01-29 10:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whining about chores…
"Thanks for letting me know you're too tired to clean you room. Go rest for a half hour and then, you can get to work."
Wait until she wants to do something and then say, “I will be happy to do that for you as soon as you do you clean you room" and walk away.
Or consider giving the kids and allowance and when she whines just say… “That’s okay; you can pay me to clean your room do it for you. I’ll just take it out of your allowance.”
2007-01-23 10:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by string1dm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything that's special to her should be taken away as a punishment. Six year olds should be helping around the house and not laying around whining and watching tv all day. Show her who's in charge. Take away her TV, doll and anything else that she loves...It will work believe me.
2007-01-23 08:31:29 · answer #11 · answered by svictor24 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋