My niece just announced she is pregnant and her husband is going off to war. Is this fair to the kid ????
2007-01-23 08:25:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well nothing about her husband going to war is fair. But its life.
At least it will give her husband something to look forward to coming home and make sure he keeps himself safe.
Also for her it could be a comfort, that she is having his baby someone who is part of the man she loves. It's not going to be easy for her but I guess that is when you her family come in and help her.
My prayers are with her and her husband...
2007-01-23 08:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Christina L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wisdom is debatable, and it's a personal choice for the couple to make. One they obviously HAVE made.
On one side, if he doesn't come back, she has something of him that will go on and carry his name and honor into the future. But she will also be a single mother left to raise their child alone, hoping to find a man who will accept that child as his own.
On the other side, they're getting a start on their family while they have the chance. When one spouse in the service, your chances to get pg are decreased dramatically by the time spent away from home. Sure, he'll miss her pregnancy and part of the child's life, but eventually he would miss that time due to training and other career obligations in the military. If, in the military, you waited until a "good" time to have a child, you would end up childless for most or all of your reproductive life. At least right now, the child won't know the difference, whereas a toddler or older will know when Daddy suddenly isn't there anymore.
It also does give the father more to worry about in the field, which can be dangerous, but it gives him something more to fight for, also, which is good.
2007-01-23 08:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! My father was in the Navy for 30 years, my mother raised us pretty much by herself, and she tells us all the time she wouldn't have changed that for the world. It was hard at times, my dad would be gone for 8mo. to 1 1/2 yrs. at a time, come home for a month, and be gone again for the same amount. My mom said she loved my dad so much that if something were to ever happen to him, she would want something that was part him to remain with her for the rest of her life, Love does many crazy things, but your niece isn't wrong, she's very much right. If my dad were to never come home from war, i would understand and be very proud of him for the rest of my life i would tell everyone that he was a hero, because that's exactly what every military man is! A HERO!
2007-01-23 08:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for him to be home and share everything you share with the whole preganancy and giving birth would be more wonderful. I think it would be selfish for you only to experience this joy alone. If you have more kids later and he is there for those to be born is unfaisr also. If he won't be long or if he can come home for the birth go for it. If you decide to do it make sure you tape the delivery. I think he would rather be there and you need to consult with him first.
2007-01-23 08:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by jijizworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a career military man, so there isn't really a "right" time to have children! We're not letting that stop us, though. Of course, it's not an ideal situation, but you do what you can.
2007-01-23 08:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by karen p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! Just think of it like this........ Your pregnet "N" your husband goes to war, when he comes back, you will share somthing so unique "N" special. But what if he doesn't come back? You will always have a wonderful memory of him every time you look into your son or daughters eyes. Babys are a gift from GOD, created to perfection, innocent in every way and humble in their simple way of life.
Is this fair to the child in question?.......YES.....
2007-01-23 08:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by islandmagic85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Yes!!
Good chance he will come back as huge govenrment compensation for wives who lost their husband in the desert.
It will pay much more than what the poor bastard would have achieved himself (ohterwise he wouldn`t be serving...), which will be instrumental in ensuring the kids future!
just kidding of course, don`t you guys ever do that, unless duty call and there is no other choice
2007-01-26 01:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by corp_underground 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not for me to say
My husband and I planned to have a child at the perfect time, it died two years later
You niece husband can come home. If he doesn't she will have a piece of him. I look at my daughter and thank god I had her. I will always have him in her.
Your niece and her husband know the risk, they are hoping for the best.
I wish them the best
2007-01-23 10:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard when the dad is deployed. i have many cousins who are in the same situation. its hard, and there's nothing you can do to bring him home, but as a family, you can support her all the way through, she's gonna need it. And when he returns, he'll be the first one off the boat.
He's gone to fight for the country the baby's living in. Cut him some slack, imaging how he feels.
2007-01-23 08:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-04-01 16:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋