Sorry if this is long. I posted a question about a month ago about my mother in law on x-mas day she kicked me out of her house, pushed me when I tried taking my daughter with me & then threatened to take my daughter away(through courts although she will never get her because she has a sexual misconduct on her record). Anyway last night she called my husband & told him that I need to forget what happened, get over it and start talking to her. I told my husband that I will not forget, how am I suppose to forget someone kicking me out of their house, pushing me and then threatening to take my child away. My husband told his mother that I am not going to talk to her & he isn't going to make me, so than she said well I better start getting to see my granddaughter every sunday or I will show up at your house at 6 everynight. I agreed to let her take her on sunday feb 4th even though it was against my better judgement. Also she threatened to take us to court again. I live in IL. What to do
2007-01-23 08:23:51 · 9 answers · asked by mdoud01 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is married her husband is 20 yrs younger than her and at times he can be logical but at moments he takes her side and he agrees that I need to grow up and get over what happened on christmas. Also my daughter is 5 months old.
2007-01-23 08:44:06 · update #1
My husband feels that she is in the wrong but he doesn't feel that she or her husband would do anything to harm our daughter but he agrees that if I don't want to talk to her that I don't have to and that I am right for standing my ground but he feels that they should have a right to see her until she is old enough to decide for her self that she doesn't want to see her.
2007-01-23 08:50:13 · update #2
My husband feels that she is in the wrong but he doesn't feel that she or her husband would do anything to harm our daughter but he agrees that if I don't want to talk to her that I don't have to and that I am right for standing my ground but he feels that they should have a right to see her until she is old enough to decide for her self that she doesn't want to see her.
2007-01-23 08:50:27 · update #3
move and dont tell her
or take her to cort
dont take ur doer sundays why would an old woman com nockingon ur doorat 6.00
2007-01-23 08:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have a hellava mother in law. yes I do remember that about her kicking you out,but i cannot remember why..I have heard of bad mother in laws but yours takes the cake.If she wants you to forget what happened which you never will im sure,she needs to tell you how sorry she is and try very hard to make amends and she needs to start by cooling her temper and having a new attitude..I don,t know about your state but I do know that grand parents do have rights in some states..If you have to let your daughter see her then maybe that cannot be helped but i would never step foot into her house ever again until she says she is sorry...Let her take you to court if she must but they want do anything except maybe let her see your child maybe once a month....A grandparent has no right to mistreat you,she will end up paying for it with less or no visits..I would not care if she did take me to court,you can count on it she will not see your child once per week,maybe once a month...
2007-01-23 16:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could have an assault charge laid against her for her behaviour on Christmas but this certainly wouldn't resolve the issue at hand. You may be wise to speak with a criminal attorney or a family law lawyer and inform them of what is occurring. If you do not feel safe allowing your daughter to go with her on the 4th of Feb. then please do not feel pressured into allowing this to happen. You also may want to arrange for supervised visits if you feel at all that your child's health and/or welfare may be at risk. Talk it over with your husband and be honest about how you feel and the two of you together try and come up with some compromise for his mother to see her granddaughter. But the fact that she has a sexual offense on her record may put a red flag up regarding her seeing your child alone, I do not know the nature of this charge. Whatever happens put the welfare of the child first regardless of what anyone thinks. Best of luck with this situation.
2007-01-23 16:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is crazy enough to talk to u that way and kick you out of the house then there is no telling what she is capable of and your daughter is five months i would not let that #itch near her.Grand parents do not have rights to grandchildren there is no law that exists that states anything of the sort.You don't have to do anything and if she showed up at my house i would call the police if she didn't leave when i asked her to.If she kicked you out of her house then she should'nt be allowed to come to yours.I would let it go and let her go when your daughter gets older maybe your husband can take her to visit sometime but she has no rights to that child what so ever.
2007-01-23 16:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words - Restraining Order. The most important thing is the safety of your child. If this woman is dangerous why in God's name would you let her take your daughter for day. As a grandparent she has no parental custody rights even in IL. I suggest you go to court and get an order against her. She sounds vicious and if I were you I would not give my daughter to this woman.
2007-01-23 16:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Michael K 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU NUTS FOR LETTING HER TAKE YOUR CHILD
your Husband should stand up for you against his mother what she did was dead wrong. no way in hell would she get to see my child alone if she has a sexual misconduct record. see this pisses me off those DARN in laws think they have the right to tell you how to live and who you need to talk too. she has threatened you and you need to get a court order to keep her away from you and your child. I am sure they will give you one right away with her record. get a lawyer if needed to keep her away from you and your child.
2007-01-23 16:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by cindy b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you really think your MIL is a danger to you or your daughter, you do whatever is necessary to protect your daughter. AND why isn't your hubby putting a stop to this ridiculous behavior, is he afraid of his mommy, what kind of man is he? He's not going to make you talk to her, it should be that he needs to demand an apology and better behavior from his mother. (as long as you aren't provoking her.)
2007-01-23 16:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I remember you. What does your hus think of all of this? Posession is 9/10ths of the law. I wouldn't let her "have" my child. If she wants to come to MY house and visit she could with the understanding that she is to behave like an adult.
2007-01-23 16:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take *her* to court.
Also, she sounds like she's mentally ill. You need to take care of that first. You didn't mention a father in law or any siblings in law. From what you say here and that's all I can go by, it sounds like she needs help.
2007-01-23 16:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by autimom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋