My child wants to go to her old school where all of her friends are. She said that nobody here wants to play with her. I can't imagine what may be going on and I know sometime my child can be the irritating type. I don't want her to compromise herself but I want her to be able get along and play with others and still be herself at the same time. What do I do go to the school, make more visits, sit in calss?
2007-01-23 08:17:34 · 17 answers · asked by jijizworld 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Coming from someone who has been a military child, and been moved around more times than most people in there entire life, i can tell you this, your child will be just fine it takes time! Involve your child in activities in school stuff like sports, art, or even boys and girls clubs. DON"T whatever you do go to your childs school and sit in class with them or make excessive visits, you will taint your child, not on purpose, but other children will make fun of your child, or cause problems along those lines! trust me my mom did that to me once and only once. Otherwise its good to be involved in some level with your child. So how about going to there sports game and cheering them on, or an art fair where you can congradulate them and brag to other parents. All in all don't worry, everything will be okay, you can also try sending a bag full of lolli pops, with your kid to school and share with class mates, they sure will be a hit then! Kids are easy to please! Remember that!
2007-01-23 08:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well yes I agree with the person that said don't go to her school...it WILL make situations worse. How old is your child? If she is my age around 13...you should let her throw a party or something...you could also ask her about some after school programs...like trying out for a team sport or something. If she is really young like 6-10 then you should set up a play date. But, you must not go to her school ESPECIALLY if she is my age she will be known as 'the girl whose mom visit the school because she was concerned about her social life' your daughter will never forgive you for that. But, if your child has just started the school give it some time...it took me around 2 months to make friends in my 7th grade class... and that is because i have this thing where i dont talk to ppl i dont know.
2007-01-23 10:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone in class that she likes? Maybe she can invite them over for a play date? How old is the child? How long has it been since the move/ Last year we had to move in the middle of the school year and it was a bit rough at first but then my son had tons of friends. Maybe she just needs more time.
2007-01-23 08:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to the teacher to find out if she really has no friends. Work out a plan with the teacher on who would be good to match her up with. Then encourage the friendship. Bring her home for plays and the teacher will help at school by sitting them together.
2007-01-23 19:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a party! Best way to get her invited to other peoples parties [aka "popular" in their eyes], mingle with other kids, and just have fun. If she is at a new school this is a perfect time! -- depending on her age [I'm guessing 9-12?], a sleepover party for a bunch of the girls in her class would be ideal. Plan a low key cool girl hangout night with movies, pizza, etc. This way you can guage how they are reacting to each other too!
2007-01-23 09:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids need to have things to do today. I'd sign her up for girl scouts/guides, enroll her in a sport type activity like soccer or tae-kwon-do. Also, it would really help if she could invite one child over for a playdate, increase to two to three once she has formed a bond. Its really hard for all of us at one time or another to fit in so I wish you luck! It shouldn't be that hard to make friends...times have definetly changed.
2007-01-24 02:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Calista77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. Your going to the school isn't going to do anything but embarass her and make her a laughing stock among her peers. Then she won't be able to make friends even if she tries. Let her get used to the new school and let the other kids get used to her on their own. Stop butting in.
2007-01-23 15:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are social beings n we need friends but honestly there's nothing wrong with being a bit of an outcast eventually she MUST make some friends ...n if she doesnt turn out to be popular (as seems the case) she'll probably find that she'll keep those friends 4 a lot longer than the other kids
dont worry too much about her...but dont ignore her either...which of course u wont since ur consern enough to be asking the question here..
she'll be okay tho...change can hurt....but i guess we tend to learn from it..
2007-01-23 08:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by i hate mosquitoes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you have her invite someone over to play after school or on the weekend. There has to be somebody that likes her. Maybe she should try kids from a different class room or 1 grade higher or lower then her own.
2007-01-23 08:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really is no longer appropriate. How ought to he say it doesn't harm her to get pinched? actually if this bothers him that a lot then they don't look to be truly human beings you want to be associates with. I have a pal who has a 4 12 months previous and her daughter is continually choosing on my daughter and every time my pal sees her she contraptions her immediately. I have informed this little woman issues too in the front of her mom now to not pinch, kick, push or play demanding with my daughter because she is two times her age. My pal doesn't concepts this in any respect and when we bypass over to her homestead she does a similar with mine (no footwear on the carpet, juice purely on the table, such issues as that).
2016-10-16 00:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by filonuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋