he lived 7 years w/ his father in another state. Last year he came to live with me. it has been a battle. He has gained alot of weight and is not makig friends. I try to talk to him about it and he says the kids make fun of him. Any advice on how to maybe get him some friends? lol i know that is silly coming froma mom but his birthday is coming with noone to invite to a party./ i feel bad for him
2007-01-23 08:14:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Thank you all very much. Baseball is starting and i will sign him up for that. Hopefully that will help. Thanks!
2007-01-23 08:27:30 · update #1
I have a nephew who is very shy and had a hard time making friends - I got him a couple of the "Klutz" books - one on how to make paper airplanes (it came with lots of fancy printed papers and easy instructions on folding) - one on juggling and one on balloon tying and now he has somethings he can do that brings the kids to him. He has no problem keeping friends - just a hard time starting the conversations. This gave him the opening he needed to make friends.
Good luck
2007-01-23 15:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by diana h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never answered any questions on here but feel compelled to give this one a try.. I would try to get him involved with some extra-circular activities (sports, boy scouts etc). Find something that he enjoys doing and somewhere he can meet other kids his age. I know it is hard for a mother (or a father) to see their kids without friends. Maybe try to talk to his teacher and see if there are other kids that are in the same boat at his school. If so, maybe they can team up so to speak. Good luck and keep your chin up :)
2007-01-23 08:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by mistertwister68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his party is the perfect oppurtunity for him to gain social status. You take over and do the inviting and make sure the party is "off the hook" so he will be the talk of the town. Also he may need to see and be around people that are just like him but cool. My nephew is on the heavy side and he doesn't care what others think. He needs his confidence built up and maybe needs to be involved in sports. Things to build confidence: jordan sneaks, vans, jersey's, cell phone, etc; it may cost you mom
2007-01-23 08:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by jijizworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you active in church? Church Youth Groups can be good for this purpose. While there still could be some teasing, the reality is the church's staff and the parents of the other youth will be more interested in making him feel included than will other adults in society that are affiliated with other groups. For example, at school the teachers and administrators have a lot more to worry about than helping your Son make friends. The Youth Pastor and Youth Group counselors / sponsors at a church will take a vested interest in this aspect of his upbringing.
Contrary to popular opinion, I have found that I have found less, rather than more judgment from my church family. When I was out of work, supposed friends from the secular world shunned me; I guess they thought they wouldn't know what to say to me. My church friends helped me network, introduced me to business associates, etc.
2007-01-23 08:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him join a sport in the community. Even though he has no friends at school, ,he will have something to look forward to when he goes to practice. That way he can focus on studies at school instead of the kids.
And ask him what he wants to join. but make sure its something that he can do well in, so give some suggestions.
Since he's gained weight, try football, if your ok with it. It will show him not to be afraid. and he'll be able to do well in high school football.
2007-01-23 08:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time you open up your legs for some unprotected sex imagine of your 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous! do you want to provide him a sibling so quickly and also you operating at a job with minimum salary? Be a mom, do not have sex, and concentrate on your son, and concentrate on getting an apt for you both quickly! And get on the pill or have the dude wrap it up! rigidity can make your era overdue--certain Getting pregnant when you pee-- conceivable
2016-12-02 23:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should encourage him to lose the extra weight. It will be easier for him to make friends and also healthier for him. Convince him to do some sport, join a sport team. He will be in shape and make friends too.
2007-01-23 08:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by hummer2601 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try enrolling him in an extra-curricular activity. It could be anything he enjoyed(s). This will put him with kids that have similar interests and give them something to talk about.
2007-01-23 08:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should try to get into some type of activity or a sport. I think a good activity would might be football or some karate,especially karate,because their they would teach him to have confidence, and then to incourage him to socialize with some of the other childern.
2007-01-23 10:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lachelle T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage him to join a sport, or an afterschool group where he can meet other kids. keep him positive, so that he feels loved and like he can accomplish things. take him places where he can meet other kids his age. get involved with other parents of kids his age. just be very involved with him.
goodluck!
2007-01-23 08:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋