when I first met my husband he was studying with the Jehovah Witness right along with me. I thought he was really a wonderful person, and because of his knowledge of bible truths thought he would make a wonderful person/mate. Well turns out, after we married he's an inconsiderate, rude, person. I do not come first in his life as far as being his wife. (I know Jehovah comes first). Was he just pretending so he can get a good wife for himself who is serious about learning bible truths. He knows being a baptized witness there is no such thing as divorce only in the case of sexual immorality. Is he just a devil in sheep's clothing?
2007-01-23 08:13:34 · 20 answers · asked by stella 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
A married couple among Jehovah's Witnesses are encouraged to pray together and read the bible together and to speak frankly about any issues between them.
The Christian congregation also provides mature congregation elders who can work to share bible points with a struggling couple.
It seems doubtful that the counsel of God's Word, and appointed elders would be outweighed by anonymous contributors to Yahoo Answers.
2007-01-23 09:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you are going through. The first thing you should do is pray. Ask your husband to pray with you. He may balk at first, but if he has an open heart he will eventually respond.
I agree with other posters that good communication is of the utmost importance. Tell him your fears and concerns, he may not realize how his behavior is really affecting you.
I also agree that the elders can be of great assistance in times of need, not just in marital situations, but in all times of need.
I hope this has helped some. You will be in my prayers.
2007-01-25 23:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by girlinks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds human. Many husbands take for granted their wives & God, many times, all at once. A good book to get to rest your mind is The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. I am a non-denominational Christian, I don't really know all the rules of JW, but I hope reading that book wont break any of your rules. It is really good & it is full of scripture! I loved that book, (Not as much as my Bible) It healped me to see things in a whole new way. I hope you can find some peace! Many prayers.
2007-01-23 16:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who are you to judge?
maybe you should have taken the time to get to know him before you married him, you cant always blame the devil for your mistakes, even though its easier to use a scape goat than see your own failings.....
not to mention being brought up in this religion most of the, Jehovah's Witnesses I was around were stuck up, inconsiderate and rude, so I think he is filling in the shoes very nicely :)
2007-01-23 16:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Justwonderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a familiar story. Heard it a hundred times.
Does it mean he's a devil in sheep's clothing? Not at all. It simply means that the honeymoon is over. Welcome to the wonderful world of married life.
Incidentally, he feels the same way about you.
2007-01-23 16:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religiousness does not correlate with kindness or morality. You may have been used, and if I was in this situation I would say that using the laws of your religion in this manner is not fair and you should be able to get a divorce.
Just my thoughts.
2007-01-23 16:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. NoneofYourbusiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Devil in sheeps clothing. Men will do just about anything to get with a girl they like.
2007-01-23 16:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Conscious-X 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you a baptized witness? If so, I believe you are asking the wrong questions to the wrong people. This is something you should talk over with your mate first. Then, if it is not resolved, talk to your elders. And of course, pray about it the whole way.
2007-01-23 16:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Badriya 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up"
You can know the whole Bible and never have a relationship with God.
Understanding comes through the Spirit and the Word.
2007-01-23 16:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Doug 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of men go to bars looking for a good lay, then go to churches looking for a good wife. They are hypocrites, and you will find them in all the churches.
2007-01-23 16:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋