little while ago I told this girl that I like her and she told me that she likes me too, evrything was fine but few dates later she told me that she is not ready for relationship yet...just got divorced
I was cool about and understanding, i backed off a little but we talk all the time, catch a movie or a dinner on ocasions....she tells me everything about her divorce
just last night when we talked I told her that I'm waiting for a friend of mine to give me a ride, and she says "I wish you woul dhavecall me , any time you need a ride just give me a call''
is she trying to get closer to me after telling me about a month ago that she is notready and she is confused?
back then she was thorn and little hurt by the divorce but since than her husband turn the divorce into an ugly battle field and now she hates his guts
what is going on?
2007-01-23 08:13:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SHE NEEDS A FRIEND JUST BE THERE FOR HER NOW****
2007-01-23 08:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to be your friend. Calling her for a ride will not turn you both into hot passionate lovers. Yes she has a messy divorce ahead of her, but it doesn't mean she can't be a good friend. Give her time to clear her thoughts of her ex and divorce; once she feels ready to move on she will. The only question is how long are you willing to wait for her?
2007-01-23 16:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going out with her having fun. talk to her, listen to her. Things will happen when the time is ready. dont force anything. she is still going through a hard time in life and do not need any more confusion added to it. U also dont want to become the rebound guy. Let ur friendship lead the way and ur relationship will be better then u ever imagined it would be. Good Luck and GOD BLESS
2007-01-23 16:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces are confusing and hard. It is hard to know when you can move on. I think that she probably likes you a lot and wants to get ot know you better and spend time with you. But maybe she was scared of rushing into something else so soon. Then she told you and it has taken that pressure off. So, I think that you should be glad that she was honest with you and keep hanging out with her....it sounds promising. Just be patient.
2007-01-23 16:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going thru a trauma. She trusts you. By offering you her help, she is being sincere in repaying for the help and support you are providing her in this difficult time.
Seek her help whenever you can. Tell her you did not know that you could ask her for a ride, now that you know, she will be the first person to be called.
Is there something long term in this. MOST DEFINITELY. When she has recovered from the ordeal and is ready to love again, who do you think she is going to call first. Is she going to call on a stranger to suss him out or is she going to turn to someone who helped her when she needed most and with whom she has a bond of trust, friendship and mutual help.
The choice is yours, if you think she is worth hanging on. If I were you, I would hang on.
2007-01-23 16:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by tony01p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, all you can really do is just try to stay out of her divorce situation but listen if she is willing to talk about it. as for the part about not being ready for a relationship, just keep calm about it, she will let you know or give you a hint when she is ready to get back into that situation again
2007-01-23 16:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by ffpdfirefighter2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd still be a little cautious.. She might tell you that she's over the divorce but deep down she isn't...
2007-01-23 16:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋