my daughter already has everything for the home and feels its cheeky to ask for money but if its in a poem it would go down better
2007-01-23 08:11:04 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Check out this forum www.weddingforums.co.uk this exact subject is on there under wedding planning before and after> wedding list.
They made up their own card and poem to explain, I thought it was quite good.
2007-01-23 08:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by wendywitch 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is just not the done thing, the only way to do this is by word of mouth, and still then it looks really cheeky. I have never given a money gift to people that have asked, I have just sent them a lovely wedding card to congratulate them on their marriage, but have never ever sent money. I cannot afford a significant amount and feel much more comfortable buying a small gift from a couple's registry. That looks better than putting £10 in a card.
2007-01-24 00:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what everyone else has said: that it is beyond bad taste to ask for money or any other gifts - through the invitation or any other way. If she doesn't sign up on any gift registry, then people will ask you or the mother of the groom if the couple has any preferences as to gifts. And I don't think you can just say "Yes, money". I think that you have to be gracious and say that the guests should not feel that a gift is in any way required, that the couple would be thrilled with the guests' presence at the wedding. If the person presses on, you could say that any gift the guest chooses would be appreciated, and if the guest wants to give money, the couple is saving for (fill in the blank item). Hope the wedding turns out beautifully.
2007-01-23 10:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with majority asking for money is a definite no. Only exception would be to say the couple have everything they require and anyone want to give a gift to send to such and such a charity, it is then up to the individual and no embarrassment to them as you will not know iwhether or not it's not sent. If it is because the couple already have everything for the home but cannot afford a honeymoon etc if anyone asks about gifts as a mum in this postion with a daughter soon to be married I would just honestly say I don't know what to say as their home is well furnished. Most people I imagine would probably then give a money gift or vouchers but it would be a really not nice couple that would not be grateful for whatever gift anyone gives.
2007-01-23 09:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
donno about the poem idea. I am getting married in September and would prefer money but there is no way to say that and not sounding cheap. Go with the flow if people bring gifts that fine but usually when people know the couple are already all set up they give money.Don't ask for it.Cheapens the wedding and some guest might feel awkward about it. Imagine Grandma who you see once a year gets a card asking for money..........
Just remember that their main gift is coming to the wedding.
2007-01-23 11:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them register for gift cards. They can always use gift cards for Target, Bed Bath and Beyond, Walmart, Etc... You can add them to a registry just like a regular gift. Also if they are planning on having kids in the future it will help pay for all the diapers and food. The guests can't complain about the impersonal action since that is what the bride and groom want.
Also it is 2007 and some people are overly traditional on here. Ignore them. It all depends on the families involved if the request for money instead of cash will be taken as an insult. If your daughter and her husband are well off money wise then yes it is silly to ask for money. Ask for personal gifts about memories and family moments instead or as I said before gift cards that do not expire.
2007-01-23 09:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to do that is the same way you would spread the word on where you are registered( I assume you are not)...Which is through word of mouth of family and the bridal party..They should only say something if they are asked..For example if one of your guest were to call your mom and ask what you would like for a gift or if you are registered anywhere, she could respond with something like, " they decided not register because they are moving and cannot take a lot with them.." Most people at that point would just opt to give you a card with money or gift cards.
2016-05-24 01:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just write 'No boxed gifts please'. That gets the message across. I don't think there's a problem at all asking for money instead of presents. I'm sure people would prefer that then to slug around the shops only to pick up something that the couple already have 4 of already.
2007-01-23 22:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the madness!!
You can not ask for money, you don't ask for anything for a wedding!! The shower is were you but the registry information, if she doesn't want to registry put no information and if people ask- tell them she rather have cash. Invitations do not come with instructions on how to pay or give gifts. Most people will just give money for a wedding anyways but it's rude to ask.
NO POEMS!
2007-01-23 08:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...a cheesy poem does not make it "go down better"..people aren't going to be fooled by some dumb rhyme. If she has everything she needs, then just don't register for anything at all. By the way...there IS no invitation that states what gift the couple wants..an invitation is just that..an invitation, not a registry!
2007-01-23 09:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheeky? How about plain rude! It is very bad manners to ask for money in lieu of gifts. This shouldn't be done at all unless it's a fundraiser (not at a wedding!).
2007-01-23 09:48:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋