ok not really an important question just a who's right who's wrong type deal. i'm just sitting here thinking back about the beginning of my relationship and the first time we had sex he came in less than 5 minutes, he hadn't had sex for almost a month so i though that was why. well the next time it was less than 10. don't get me wrong i get off in that time enough. well, when it was over he said it was my fault cuz i'm tighter than other girls he's been with. i've heard this same thing from a few exs but is it really my fault? i'm not thinking it is. and he shouldn't point blame but be thankful he's not dating a loose girl right?
2007-01-23 07:46:05 · 13 answers · asked by Back*To*Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh he's trained now it only happened the first few times. like last night it lasted a good hour or so. i was just wondering how it could be my fault when it's something i really can't control.
2007-01-23 07:52:11 · update #1
it doesn't really bother me now. i mean i kinda use it as a game at times. like he'll give me tons of foreplay and such then i'll be like you wanna last this time or want a run for your money? then he won't let me be on top cuz then i'm in control and make a motion apparently that gets him everytime. i mean the sex is amazing i get off a great deal of times, so no complaining on my part.
2007-01-23 07:57:42 · update #2
Don't even think twice about it...they aren't complaining..just providing some reasoning as to why they can't last longer. It's like telling a girl "you're too good looking, sorry".
2007-01-23 07:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was complimenting you in a back-handed way. He was really trying to say, " I am really attracted to you and you are really good in bed so you make me get off fast." He is also embarrased that he can't last as long as he/you thinks is normal or he/you would like, so he is projecting onto you so he doesn't feel inadequete.
If you don't mind that he orgasms so quickly,let him know that you don't care and that you think it's hot that he thinks you are so hot. If it bothers you, suggest that you two do Kiegel excercises together. You might not necessarily need to as you seem to have strong pelvic muscles from your description but this would help him control himself. If you do it together, he will feel less targeted.
Also, when you say sex are you including foreplay? If not, it is absolutely normal for a guy to orgasm within the first ten minutes after penetration. If you want him to last longer, mix it up a bit. Bring him to the point of ejaculation and then pull back doing something less stimulating. Do this a couple times and he will last longer and have an extremely powerful orgasm.
2007-01-23 07:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Namaste Nahmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think its your fault, I have the same problem. What I have learnt to do is to prolong the foreplay, which sometimes makes my boyfriend even hornier which makes the problem worse.
And I also change positions and play a more active role, that way I can choose the pace and stop when I need to. It gives me an extra 20 minutes normally.
And the second time takes much longer than the first.
2007-01-23 07:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fault in this case is not a bad thing. Kind of like saying it's your fault he won the lottery. So in this case fault if good.
2007-01-23 07:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Quix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's wrong and making stuff up to let himself off the hook in the lack of performance department. You need to let him know that maybe you need some more lead in time before he gets busy making himself happy...
2007-01-23 07:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorta in a way its your fault but not in a bad way its good your tight and it feels so good he gets off so quick BUT he could also control/train it to be longer if yall wanted to do it longer
2007-01-23 07:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by djpyro04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably meant "its your fault for being so tight" as a compliment.
2007-01-23 07:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not exactly "blaming" you in a bad way... he just telling you a simple answer...
2007-01-23 07:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHAHA Keep flattering yourself!! LOL I've heard that line too! Bunch of bull!!
2007-01-23 07:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah he's dumb he should be down there thanking it and kissing it..a tight **** is a sweet ****
2007-01-23 07:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋