im 5ft 6 i have long brown hair,im thin, im pritty, i have a few peircings no tattoos, i have a smoke occasianaly if im havn a drink with close mates, im not needy after sex n i hate guys who r, i hate shopping i tend to swear alot i love tlkin to ppl i dnt get overly drunk n make a dick of myself (or i do n jst dnt remember) i dnt think a guy should be sumthin hes not or reach for sumthing he obviosly cnt catch i have no set plans for the future not cause i dnt want a future its jst soly cause i no tht things change in the blink of an eye n i dnt have high standards in jst happy to be with sum1 whos happy, can any1 tell me wat im doing rong to turn guys away frm me
2007-01-23 07:36:01 · 12 answers · asked by memememememe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guaranatee if you increase you're typing grammar, they will come. That or, stop smoking, drink more, put yourself out there and be patient.
2007-01-23 07:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by The Savage Jaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of this sounds like you might be considered one of the guys. You like to go out and drink and smoke and party. So maybe they see you as more of a buddy than a girlfriend.
Also it may lie in the part where you say you don't have high standards because life can change in the blink of an eye. Do you mean that as you just kind of go with the flow or are you a pretty negative person? If you have a negative outlook on life, well that isn't very attractive to many people. I personally don't want that in a friend much less a girlfriend.
The last area I see a possible problem is the fact that you don't have high standards. Do you take every single possibility that comes along? If so, you might be seen as just some one to fool around with and not someone to be in a serious relationship with.
That's all I can possibly see from this little description you've given of yourself. Honestly I'd have to know you better to say anything for sure. But if it turns out to be any or all of these things I've pointed out, it's not to say they can't be changed if you want them to be. If it's the first one you can try cutting back on the boozing and swearing. If it's the second you can try to start thinking a bit more possitively in life. Realize the glass is just as half full as it is half empty. And, if it's the third one, just be a bit more picky and don't date/sleep with every guy that comes your way. And of course these are only optional options if you WANT to change. If you think you're fine just the way you are, well that might be true. If it is true, there's no reason to change. Just know that your version of fine and the versions of the guys you are trying to attract might not be the same. Obviously the fact you're asking this quesiton shows you're aware of that.
Like i said, I'd have to know you personally for a while to be able to tell you anything on a more actual basis, but this is what I saw as possibilities in the little paragraph I know about you. Good luck.
2007-01-23 16:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by martheev98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i'm was in the same boat you were in a little more than a month ago....it just takes time, there are some things you have to figure out while you have the time....you want to wait for someone worthy enough to have you, don't rush into something with random guys just cuz you want a relationship....another thing right now your hormones are raging and all you can think about is sex...so just chill and take your time, the right and worthy fella will come along eventually just be patient (i know that it sucks now but i promise if you keep busy and keep your head up it will get better! ;) i've been there i know!
2007-01-23 15:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by scglj031089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends, but you sound fine to me, you might have not found the right guy for you. To be honest, you have to have some standards and some goals and plans for the future, since most people will think you are going nowhere in your life and just rolling with the punches. It's important to know that you care about your life and where you want to be in five or ten years from now, even if life can be unpredictable, this is no excuse to just give up and be totally without aspirations! Make sure to build your self esteem and personal confidence, and be more picky with regards to who you hang out with. get to know them as people before you open up completely, so you can make an informed decision, if you want them in your life or not.
2007-01-23 15:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is the droning on and on
or the " maybe I get too drunk to remember" being a dick
or maybe it is that you appear to be very immature
or maybe it could be that you have no set plans for the future
or maybe it could be that you are not " needy " after sex ( giving the guys the impression that you are " loose " )
I don't know but maybe you need to look at your description and tell yourself what is wrong with you. You have listed a lot of things that make you appear to be " casual " date material instead of " serious " date material
2007-01-23 15:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u have a really good thing going for u and u can find the right person, stop looking and start seeing.
you'll meet the right guy.. and you're not doing anything wrong, it's just a matter of opinion...
2007-01-23 15:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lozer [[RawrRawrHerbivore]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you're not turning guys away your just around the wrong type of guys...go out and meet new guy friends that share the same interest as you...if all the guys around you do share the same interest then either...they think of you as a good friend..or they just won't admit it...or could be because they already have hot girls...doubtful..lol
2007-01-23 15:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some spelling lessons, guys like smart girls!
2007-01-23 15:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come over here! you sound wicked hot.
2007-01-23 15:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Food For Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, you can't spell!
2007-01-23 15:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by exhausted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋