HELP I'm very short tempered how to control my anger?

Question

when ever i hit the top i say things i dont mean.It is really pain full for others i feel terribly sorry after saying all that,some times i dont even remember wat i said plzzzzzzzzzz help me.

Answer 1

Breathing techniques r best to control. for more information visit www.artofliving.org

Answer 2

You took the first step by acknowledging you have a problem and the second step by asking for help. There is nothing wrong with you - that you have to understand. And most of the people who gave answeres have pretty good advise.

There are a lot of things you can do to help maintain your anger.
You can not do something htat will just take it away - because your life is all in balance by stopping one thing you automattically start doing something else (This might sound strange but to give you an example that you will understand - when a person stops smoking they normally start doing something else like eating)

You cant just stop - you have to channel your energy into someting else. That why you go to anger manage classes etc.

But there is something you can start doing by yourself - it might be hard but in the long run - it will be good for you. Next time you get angry even though you might want to act out - turn around, walk away and do something least expected like exersicing or singing, dancing, painting - anything else to take your mind off it.

That will give you time to relax and think about things Your first reaction is always a defensive one - if you react in anger or insulting a person - it is just a devence mecanism - your not thinking of the hurt you will be causing.

By walking away and channeling your anger into something else - your body and mind has time to relax and after a few minutes you start thinking of other things to say or other ways to react than what you would have if you stayed and acted straight away.

The longer you take to re-act the calmer reaction you will give. If it takes you a couple of days to a week to react to a situation - you might react in total calmness even deciding that you maybe shouldn't react to it at all.

Answer 3

In only 2 condition people become short tempered:-

1, JEALOUSY
2, FRUSTRATION

These two things make u angry most of the times, first thing u need to do u worship of GOD in routine manner & read the 'GEETASAAR' . It will help u control ur anxiousness & u will learn how to live a good life.

FRUSTRATION is most common factor of short tempered, if u r not satisfied with ur life, u dont have anything like others have may be beautyness, richness, intelligency, high post, education, nice house, nice car, good boyfriend or girlfriend. These things make u frustrated which isonverted in SHORT TEPERED, so pls
dont think embarracing about those things which is u dont have, yyou need to think about those people whoes have nothing, but they are happy because they are satisfied with thier life, AS GOD GAVE IT TO THEM. You just think about from violation, angry, hopeless, never gives result, except 000.

Answer 4

OMG I can't believe someone answered with the Gemini thing. I have the same problem. Been sent to employee assistance for therapy. Got book called Letting Go of Anger. It's pretty good. Now working on Relaxation workbook. Bought both at amazon for about half the price of reg book store. I don't know your age but you are probably younger than me. I've mellowed but still have huge anger management issues. I think it's just my personality. However, it does affect my job and it will yours as well eventually so it's a good thing to get a grip on. The first book was really good and helped me figure out things I didn't even realize I was doing. Highly recommend reading it. I think I got it for about $2 on amazon. Good luck!

Answer 5

Hi! My sister is too very short tempered like u.so my mom has given her a best solution i.e. she told my sis. to say 'om namah shivay' till some time until your anger is cooled down. and that really works.u wont believe it but my sis. is really calm now a days.or other way is that when u get angry start counting back the numbers loudly from 100 bit louldly so that while counting u 'll forget that u were angry.

Answer 6

This is a very good question.
I am also facing the same problem.
Short temper means getting heated up very soon and in no time.
There are two reasons.
1) May be you are intelligent and your IQ is above average and when people do not match your IQ you get upset and you blurt out angrily.
2)May be you are ignorant and you misunderstand others and you get entangled and vent out your anger violently.

Solution:

Be conscious of yourself and the situation .
Determine with in yourself that you will not get provoked under any situation.Even if you are irritated,try to let out your anger in a controlled manner.
THINK.........THINK..............THINK YOU WILL SUCCEED IN CONTROLLING YOUR ANGER.
WISH YOU GOOD LUCK.WISHING THE SAME TO ME.

Answer 7

Take anger management class. And i am not even playing. You feel better if you met people face to face that actually face problems like you. They will all have something to say and it may help you big time to see how they problems that caused them to have a short temper were insignificant and timewasting or serious and not as bad as yours. Good luck!

Answer 8

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All the best!

Answer 9

You have to get to the root of the anger. What is it that is making you so angry. You need to see a Dr. as I think you are a bit depressed and take an anger management program so it can help you find out or get to the bottom of the problem. Take care Heather

Answer 10

i can understand u may be yelling at people like sagar/cursing. brainless people are more in number. for .e.g. out of 30 people in a class, only one gtes first rank. its the same case. this world consists of the rest 29 people, underbrains. u have to deal with such silly things all ur life. so, think that way..

some pretend. some act, some cheat. unnecessarliy they read great books and identify themselves with some great characters of the books and try to imitate in routine life. since these people dont have a respect for themselves. all cheats. they deserve a place only in dustbins. eventhough u provide helping hand, if u r not strong, they may well pull u down. so ignoring is the best possible way.

Answer 11

This is very hard to control and it won't change over night. The best thing to do is when you feel yourself getting angry, stop and take a deep breath and just leave the room or where ever you are at. Have you tried talking to a councelor about it?