A two year relationship just recently ended last week. I have no intentions of dating again soon, however, I expect him to be dating by this weekend - if not already. He's somewhat insecure (although he'd never admit it) and cannot take being alone with himself. He works with a lot of women, mostly young girls, and I realize there's probably no end to the possibilities there. Especially having established friendships with many of them already through working with them. Their not strangers.
If he does indeed start dating within a week or two, I must say I will feel very disappointed. I, myself, do not desire to begin to even think about it. I still have feelings for him. Dating so soon on his part would make me feel as if this relationship wasn't very important to him. If getting over it is that easy. And that he didn't suffer from the loss of me as his partner. Is that wrong for me to judge how he feels about me - by what he may do in the near future? Guys-fill me in!
2007-01-23 07:32:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on how you feel, not how long it has been. One warning, getting back too soon might mess up a great new relationship. Waiting too long might throw away some great chances.
2007-01-23 07:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me 5 mo. ago we were 2gether for 2 years and now we have a baby, which makes it 10x harder, but as soon as we broke up it seemed like the next day he had a girlfriend that is 6 years younger than him he's 23 and she's 17, i am 22 and i felt so hurt by this, but to move on u have to get out there and start dating, i didn't want to either and i am still heartbroken but if u sit around and think about him all the time ur gonna drive ur self nuts, better believe he's out there having fun and not thinkin bout u so u need to do the same!!!!!!!!! plz move on if he wants u back he will let u know and if ur with someone else that will make him realize what he lost and maybe he will come back, that is if u even want him anymore!!!!!!! hope i helped u out xoxoxox
2007-01-23 15:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by cc1872 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship has ended, then you must move on. The first step in getting on is grieving, which is where you seem to be right now. Second step would be to forget him. Whether to date again or not would be third step. Listen to your instincts, do not rush in to date because he is doing so. Do not let him control your life any more. Whether or when do you date should depend on what you want to do and not on what he is or is not doing.
Sense of loss depends on how much you value a relationship. It seems that while you loved him, he did not have the same feelings for you. Are you not glad that he has freed you up within two years. A person who can love has lot more to give others. You have to appreciate that you are a wonderful person and not drag yourself down to his level just to be ableto stay with him.
Send him a Thank you note for the love you felt towards him during two years, wish him good luck in finding his love, suggest him the names of one or two girls you think would be compatible with him.
2007-01-23 15:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by tony01p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely okay for you to judge like that the amount of time after a relationship always matters on how long it lasted and how serious it was...if you were in a 2 yr relation ship then he shouldn't even want to look at other girls until about 6 to 8 months from now depending on him...but not a week or two not even a month.
2007-01-23 15:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Date whenever you feel ready, but as an unofficial rule, it takes about half as long as the relationship lasted to be ready to move on and get over it. So, in a 2 year relationship, you'll be ready in a year. But if you want to date around (it's just a date, not anything more than dinner), then there's no shame in it.
2007-01-23 15:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about what he does. If he does start dating it is his problem.
As for you take some time to heal make yourself a whole complete person when you can stand on your own two feet, be able to totaly forgive him his wrongs and not think of him. then you will consider going on a date with someone
2007-01-23 15:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well nadja if it was his idea i would say he already had a prospect lined up. because he doesnt want to go without having sex very long. if the relationship was slowing down near the end he probably didnt have the desire for you anymore. sad as it may sound he probably kept you around till he knew he could get it elswhere
2007-01-23 17:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by dlgrinding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to think you should be doing following his lead or matching belt notches. You are broken up now, take control of and repect yourself and your life.
Dating immediately is a very strong sign of insecurity and lack of self respect. If you have a self esteem you will date a guy when you're attracted to him and want him, not as a rebound pill.
Do not follow his lead.
2007-01-23 15:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by mia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should think about how he feels about losing you or anything for that matter. You should concentrate on you. You need to be taking care of yourself, pampering yourself, going out with your friends (girls night out) and have a nice, balanced life. If someone asks you out give them a chance. or go out to a dating site and sign up for 6 months. Be on the look out even if you may have feelings for your ex. Time will take care of everything.
2007-01-23 15:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people need to jump into another relation right away as it dulls the pain and keeps there mind off of the past
2007-01-23 15:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋