i am really good guy down to earth country guy that would do anything for the person i am with what does it take to get a gurl to notice me not justed on my looks if you can help give me a hollar back
2007-01-23 07:24:38 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you judge women based only on their personalities? If an extremely ugly woman started flirting with you are you honestly saying you'd be willing to look past that? Looks have to play a role in romantic relationships- you have to be attracted to the person you're with otherwise its called a friendship.
2007-01-23 07:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when people do this.
Chances are though that you're dealing with the wrong type of girls.
Make sure that the people your with are getting to know the real you. I promise there are millions of women out there who would gouge out eyes for a chance at a sweet loyal guy.
Honestly, I think looks matter less to women than to men...as long as your general hygene is good its only a matter of time until some lucky girl sees you for the catch you are.
Just make sure that when you have the girls chasing after you that you judge them the same way you want to be judged. Not just on looks.
2007-01-23 07:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've recently had an experience with a woman that made you take on this outlook, then you shouldn't let her manipulate your perspective of all women to judging men based on looks more than personality. And correct me if i'm wrong, some men do the exact same thing (judging women on just looks). Anyway, it depends on the person. Some are more for looks, others care more for personality. Others care for both. If you'd literally do anything for this girl, then you'd let her notice you for your looks. If not, and you obviously have a problem with it, she's not the girl for you.
2007-01-23 07:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a two way street - guys are even worse than women actually. I'm more into the redneck country boy than the GQ type - so your generalization is way off for some of us. Clearly you are somewhere in the south . . . (hollar back was the give away!)
2007-01-23 07:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT??????
Are you kidding me???? That's a question most girls ask about men, not vise-versa.
Looks isn't the problem. You might be a bit overweight or not model material, but women are attracted to confidence, intelligence, humor and ability to be a "man" by taking care of themselves.
I hear all the time "Women just want a rich guy" yada yada yada.... Women want a man who isn't a little boy. Nowadays guys are playing video games, staying stoned, jobless and/or completely irresponsible. Women are disgusted by it. I am disgusted by it.
And I might be wrong for assuming.... but if you're into the hiphop or frat boy culture that's a problem of it's own. Most women don't go for guys like that anymore. Women with any sense.
Just hold your own, be confident, employed, sweet and pull those pants up past your *** and you'll be fine.
2007-01-23 07:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by mia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how you expect to be admired for your personality when you don't seem able to express yourself properly?...
Attractive personalities tend to have something interesting to say...often it will be something they have thought up all by themselves. They also have opinions based on things like knowledge, understanding and wisdom. They are sensitive and empathetic.
They enjoy a certain strength of personality that leaves macho behaviour redundant. They dress in such a way that it is obvious that they are expressing themselves in a way to make others feel comfortable with them. They do not dress like sports stars.
Their body language is natural and largely non expressive. They do not twitch, lurch, sway or adopt any other ape like movements.
If you are only meeting women that go on looks alone and none of the above...I can only suggest you leave the farm and go and work in the city. Good luck!
2007-01-23 07:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm in your exact situtation but i play for the other side, and trust me ITS A MILLION TIMES WORSE and it got me a the biggest depression cuz there r sooooooo many evil ******* outthere regardless of u worked out or not, fixed urself up or not, but i noticed gurls r much nicer and have softer hearts
lets face it we live in a very superficial world the least u can do, it might better ur chances a lil bit
-workout regularly
-stay well groomed all the time
-have a nice haircut always
-invest in a nice wardrobe (nice fitted suits, tees)
-always have intresting and impressive something to say
-and sad but true..... try to make money if ur not rich!
- surround urself around good people, u might find her through them
Best of luck for u!
2007-01-23 07:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by zesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask the same question about men!
The reason I think is because secretly we all feel inadequate and some how not good enough, so the more amazing the person we can attract the better we are. The more obsessed people are about looks the worse they feel about who they are.
If you were really so secure with yourself, then who cares who are are seen with?
Is she can’t see you for who you are, keep looking until you find the one who will. Otherwise you will spend the rest of your life trying to prove that you are worthy of her, when in fact she sould be proving her worthiness.
2007-01-23 07:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are girls out there that think more about a guy's personality than just their looks. All my friends when they first met my current boyfriend said that he wasn't what they expected. Meaning, he looks and acts nothing like the guys I've dated in the past. You sound like a wonderful guy and maybe you are just looking in the wrong places for a girl. I met my guy at work. Do you go to church? Maybe you could meet a nice girl there.
2007-01-23 07:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most it's a combination, since physical attraction usually pulls two people to meet in the first place. But I am all for a guy with a great personality. Just be yourself, and I'm sure you'll find someone who loves you. Just make sure you're looking for personality and not looks as well.
2007-01-23 07:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by .:Blair:. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋