how thinks they can last? i have been with my bf for 3 months and i'd do anything for him, but we live miles apart and he travels every wk to see me. bbut when we did want to move in together, who'd move? its tricky isnt it?
2007-01-23 07:11:37 · 17 answers · asked by tonih81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I tried this and failed, I loved the girl so much and I am trying to get her back, I have chosen to sell up change my job and move 100 miles to be closer, if your BF is worth it you'll know, i'm trying to prove again what she means to me, I'm moving from friend but she is my best friend! good luck
2007-01-23 07:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dale H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months isn't a very long time as far as relationships go, you barely know each other. The fact that he is willing to travel miles to see you every week shows you that he's serious about you. I think you should just enjoy each other now while you get to know one another.
I think you're rushing it a bit, why worry already about who's going to move? How old are you both? Do either or both of you have good jobs? What about your families?
No, this isn't "tricky". Once you really know each other and decide that you want to live together, then you can evaluate your circumstances. I would think if one of you has a good job, the other would consider moving. Just a thought.
Good luck.
2007-01-23 15:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it lasts all depends on whether you're right for one another. If you are, then the distance won't be a problem.
About the moving: if you both feel ready to move in together (it might be wise to wait a little longer and get to know each other a bit more first) you might want to consider relocating somewhere together. In other words, he doesn't move to you or you to him, but you both pick a new location together. This way it's a compromise and you'll also bond more. Think about it, you'll be on equal ground and you'll bond over the fact that you're both new somewhere.
If you're not ready to make such a big commitment, maybe you could plan to take a small long-weekend holiday together every month, or a larger holiday every couple of months in a location that's new to both of you. This would give you the opportunity to spend time together in neutral ground (away from his friends and established life or yours). This might give you a small glimpse of what it would be like to move somewhere with him. Besides, it would be fun!
2007-01-24 07:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long distance thing with my bf for almost 3 years (500 miles apart) and we saw each other maybe twice a month. Since he works in a family business, I moved to be with him. Took quite a bit of adjusting, but we've been together for 7 years now, so it was alll worth it in the end!
2007-01-23 15:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my partner had that dilemna. We spoke every day for a year and saw each other once a month alternating between me going to see him and vice versa. In the end I gave up my flat, job and moved up north to be with him. Long distance relations are hard to maintain but I had lived on my own for 11 years and thought well if I don't try and make a decision I will never know - and I have not looked back. Good luck
2007-01-24 05:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by See it as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one of these and still do. The first time it didn't work, but that was because he wasn't commited to me. It works now because we love each other equally. I am moving in 6 months to be with him. We are getting married. I was more than willing to move over there, even though it is 10 hours away. When we wighed out the pros and cons of both choices, we realized he was more stable at his job and I had more of an oppurtunity to go back to school over there. Either way I believe when there is a will, there is a way. Trust me, you know inside the truth. You just have to trust yourself.
2007-01-23 15:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by latinjustice22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself how much do you want to be with him??? You need to talk to each other and maybe find out who would benefit from moving before rushing into anything you might regret later. Long distance relationships can last aslong as your both prepared to work at it, i had a long distance relationship and it worked well but we ended up splitting up due to other reasons.
2007-01-24 12:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by judith w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you like each other and also if there are others to be considered I'm seeing someone who lives some distance away and he mostly comes to see me, it is easier cause I have an elderly mum who is not well he has a teenager living with him the only thing is for them both to come to me I'm lucky cause we all get on well.
2007-01-23 17:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you’ve clear arrangements, and both of you want it to work… it could last forever! People are different… and relationships are different…
If both of you agreed to move together… both of you should negotiate.. and make the decision about who moves… it should be done thinking in the decision which in the long term benefits the couple… both parts will have to sacrifice..
2007-01-23 15:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can work. ive been with mine for jsut about a year and last time i saw him was 7 months ago. (he came during christmas for a week). if both of you believe it can work. talk to each other about it. the moving part would be up to you guys. if you have faith, anything can work out...GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-23 15:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋