My daughter is 6 years old and is in kindergarden. And just in the past couple months she has decided she hates school and doesn't want to go. She will become very ill and throw up several times the evening before school and throughout the night and sometimes in the morning. I have taken her to the doctor and she is physically fine. I have talked to her teachers and she's not being picked on and has friends and does quite well with her school work but she just flat out does not want to go. She will cry and sob and carry on and eventually throw up. I know I have to send her but she tells me that she'll miss me or miss her dad and that she loves us more than the other kids in school love their parents so she misses us much more than her school mates miss their parents. I am at my witts end here and it is becoming quite strain in the home. Someone please help us!!
2007-01-23 07:05:32 · 7 answers · asked by AangieDR 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Here is an update for everyone. She went to pre school since she was 3 so that's not the problem and at the beginning of the year she was fine. I spoke with her teacher yesterday and she gave me her report card and she did exceptionally well. She also told me that my daughter copped an attitude in the computer lab..basically she was told to choose an activity on a game they were playing and she just said no - I've played all of these games and beat them and they are boring now...so they told her that was pretty mean to say and my daughter told her well I didn't say it to be nice. So the conclusion of everyone is that my daughter is bored in school and it's not moving at a fast enough pace for her. So now what?????
2007-01-24 01:46:15 · update #1
I have no idea if this would work, but how about saying "sure, you can stay home! But you cannot do anything all day." Make her sit in a chair - no TV, no books, no colors, no nothing except getting up to go to the bathroom and eat - in the chair. Don't pay any attention to her during that long long day. After 2 -3 days of this, she might be ready to run to school!
The other thing you might try is just to ignore her during all the tantrums. Confront her with her behavior before it happens - this is what you are doing, and I know what's going to happen, and from now on if you want to behave this way you will do it all alone, but she will still have to go to school. Tell her that you appreciate that she misses you, but that you have other plans and won't be at home anyway.
Also maybe you could set up some small rewards for after school each day. "No tantrum, we'll get ice cream after school." "No crying, we'll let Susie come over after school for an hour."
2007-01-23 07:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter needs to be challenged more, perhaps this grade level is too easy for her and she can skip a grade. I'd just try to impress upon her the importance of going to school. Maybe she needs to make a few more friends. Kindergarten is more about making lasting friendships and interacting with other kids more so than the schoolwork. Have you tried a reward program with her, like stickers for good behavior and building up to a reward? It might help.
2007-01-24 02:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Calista77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son was sort of like your daughter when he was in kindergarten. Later on I found out that he was scared of his teacher. He told me that when he was done with his kindergarten. He is still somewhat like that, feel kind of sick when he don't want to go school for some reason sometimes he don't want to tell me. He is in 4th grade now. I don't know it seems here in America teachers expect too much even to a kindergarten student.
2007-01-23 07:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by angel007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a son (now 24) that hated school and come to find out, there was a girl teasing him, I thought he was mental. I also had another son who hated school and physically got sick, I think sometimes just the stress is hard on them, you may consider holding her back a year.
2007-01-23 07:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer to help out in her classroom. Tell her that and do it . this will give her something to look forward to. I think she will enjoy it . Best of luck with this I am a teacher and I love for my parents volunteer.
2007-01-23 08:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just learned about death or divorce or something totally unrelated to school and is trying to process that along with being away from you all day?
2007-01-23 07:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bribe her. Give her money or toys or sweets if she goes to school.
2007-01-23 07:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋