Over the past 3 years I have cheated on my boyfriend several times. I have lied to him about everything! I have had other relationships on the side as well! Now i think I love him and he isn't sure if I am worth the hastle! He wants me to stay at home 60%-70% of the time. How do I get him to let me back in his life and trust me?
2007-01-23 07:05:27 · 30 answers · asked by Krista H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good luck with that.
If he does "let you back in" he has my sympathy.
2007-01-23 07:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't unless he is really really stupid.
Would you trust you after what you have done?
Why don't you move on and see if you really have anything
between you if you put it on the backburner for a while.
My guess is that you put on this show because you are
afraid you will not have this guy to play around with anymore
because you are insecure. Maybe you need to develop some
confidence by stopping the game you are playing with this
poor guy and seeing how you really get along in the world,
and I'm sure this guy needs to get rid of you for his own
self-esteem.
Do not see each other at all for 6 months ... then if you want
start dating again, but carefully, and be specific about what
you are going to do regarding any commitments - but I can
guarantee you that you will not want to see each other again
and you would be wondering why you ever did in the first
place.
2007-01-23 07:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by themountainviewguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is so hard to rebuild. If he didn't satisfy you enough to stop you from running around before then why do you think he will now?
Seems like you only want him right now because he doesn't know if he wants you. We girls are like that we only want what we can't have. Once you have him again and things are back to normal I guarantee you back to your old tricks! Start fresh, find a good man that can satisfy and let this go, I think it's time. Good luck!!
2007-01-23 07:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, let him go. You should just move on. You cheated on him which means you either didn't really care about him in the first place, you have committment issues or he isn't the one for you. Evaluate what you really want in your life. Meanwhile, let him go so he can find a love he deserves and who deserves him. If it is meant for the two of you to be together, you'll cross paths again when the time is right.
2007-01-23 07:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too little, too late. I think he's right and you're probably not worth the hassle. The best way to get trust is to earn it, and you might have already done irreparable damage. I would spend some time deciding if you really love him and why? If you do, why have you treated him this way? Do you think you love him now because he's ready to wash his hands of you? I suggest some serious personal and relationship counseling.
2007-01-23 07:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by rumezzo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry yet what he did, i does no longer evaluate ok. He cheated on you consisting of her. isn't that reason sufficient to stay away. it type of feels like you do not have self belief him, and by technique of the seems of what your wrote, you shouldn't. If he won't be able to stay away then why do you should stay. what's the problem become reversed might want to be be as gracious as you? I doubt it. you're asking us and also you already seem to understand the answer. My mom once advised me that once you're relationship you want to be picky, because you want to finally end up with someone who treats you the way you deserve, and is your ideal. once you're married you agree, and enable little issues slide. Now i'm no longer declaring that in case you've been married you should enable this bypass, i'm declaring you aren't any further married so why post with the bull. strong success
2016-12-02 23:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any attempt to "get him" to trust you again would be manipulative and make you even less worthy of trust.
If you're truly sincere, all you can do is apologize and hope he gives you another chance. If he doesn't, that isn't his fault - it's yours. Sometimes you simply have to live with the consequences of your actions.
The most important thing you can do is learn from this and resolve not to make the same mistake again, either with your current boyfriend or any future ones.
2007-01-23 07:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by tfmemnoch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, why did you cheat on him..personally i dont think he could ever trust you 110% again, and you cant blame him for wanting you to stay home 60-70% of the time.
i have no clue how you could get his trust back, maybe stop cheating on him will help. just know that it takes time...and in your case a lot of time will be needed.
ps- i wasnt trying to be rude if it seems that way.
2007-01-23 07:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by heather feather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the fact that you cheated on him for so long and now you "think" you love him is a sure sign that he may not be the right one for you!! Let him go and find the person that is right for you and that you don't ever want to cheat on!!
2007-01-23 07:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on him. With most people, once they have been lied to, and/or, cheated on, they don't even want to try to make things work. You need to be patient and earn his trust back! And be thankful that you've found someone willing to still work on the relationship! Most would have just dumped you!
2007-01-23 07:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cheated and lied for three years yet you complain that he wants to keep a close eye on you?!!! You should be more than amazed that he even wants to be around you. You cheated for three years so I don't think you should have a problem waiting three years to re-gain some trust.
2007-01-23 07:11:30 · answer #11 · answered by the seeker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋