Hi, I'm 14, and I just moved to another country. I came with my mom and younger brother. The thing is, my friends don't e-mail me anymore and so far, my mom is my only friend since I can't talk to anyone else. She was already my friend but lately she is getting all stressed out with the move. I can't tell her anything or she starts accusing me, or worse yelling at me. It's not my fault I have these problems, and she's the only person I know that could help. And now I can't tell her anything anymore. I've gone about two weeks without talking to anyone and I'm almost exploding. What do I do?
2007-01-23 07:02:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Heheh, I forgot to mention that I don't speak the local language. And no one speaks English here. So making friends isn't really an option.
2007-01-23 07:06:25 · update #1
Start making new friends in the place where you live now.
2007-01-23 07:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by DL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look..moving isn't easy, period. Much more moving to a country where you don't speak the language! Your mom is obviously all you have right now. I say..breathe really take time to examine whats up with your mom. Maybe your doing things that might frustrate her? Try helping out around the house more, or with things that you see she is having problems with. Take a class to learn the language! You might as well since your sorta stuck there for now right? And try to make a new friend. Another good idea is to have a journal ;) somewhere where you could write things down whenver you get upset or angry..its a really good way of letting things out.
2007-01-23 07:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a language barrier between you and other kids? Different culture ? Did you move to a place where kids have less hobbies less outdoors activities or less clubs at school ? If so you can focus on writing also to exteriorize your thoughts and feelings.
Otherwise, try to get involve at school, make friends in class and join sports teams or other activities. At 14, friendships are shaky if you move away, it's the old "out of sight out of mind" policy unfortunately. But that's quite alright, you will meet new people new friends.
Your mom is very stressed and she knows its not your fault but it is a heavy load on her to make sure everyone gets to eat and dress in your family. She is dealing with a stressful debut and you just need to be patient with her. She will come around and talk to you when she is emotionally stable as well.
2007-01-23 07:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by GuyNextDoor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always free classes so don't use that as an excuse for not learning the language. In most countries, everybody speaks some type of English, have you tried just speaking to kids that are about your age. What are you doing as far as school is concern. Since you are chating with us. Put yourself on blast and ask for all the young English speaking people to contact you in your local area.
2007-01-23 07:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could write it all down in a letter and mail it to her that way she will know that you need help making friends with the local. you might be able to take a class or two of their language. or buy a book about their culture and learn little words that will help you out at their stores. you did not mention where you moved too. you might have spoken too soon about what language some of the people know. you have the internet I am sure you can find a local teen center to help you out as well
2007-01-23 07:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by cindy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on what Country you have moved to ,you could get freindly with the girls in that school you go to ....your mom is stressed out because moving the family to another country is stressfull and there are so many things to take care of. I know it is hard in your age to make a big move like this ,but in no time at all you will have new friends .
P.S.: start writing a diary this helps too !
Good Luck and I keep you in my prayers
2007-01-23 07:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get invloved with soe groups...a nearby church youth group or within your school.....drama, cheerleading, band, debate, there are several to choose from.
Lastly, dont be afraid to randomnly meet people. Say hi to the person in class next to you. Walk up to a table at lunch and say, mind if I sit here? More importantly, when meeting someone for the first time, make sure you ask about them and talk less about yourself. Good luck dear, moving to a new place is always tough. Ive done it 7 times.
2007-01-23 07:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO you live in a country that speak a language you don't?
Learn the language... get out there and meet people and make new friends. Are you going to school? Introduce yourself to kids your age. Join some clubs at school.
2007-01-23 07:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of clubs do you have at your school? If there's something that interests you, join it. There are likely other people in the club that like the same things as you, and maybe you can start a conversation with some of them? Ask where the best hangout spots are, and then see if they'd like to show you around.
2007-01-23 07:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Katrina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 there are many places to make friends including your school and youth groups. Get involved with some of those.
2007-01-23 07:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try making new friends at school or something, you can always join a club or a sprot team and that would help you to get started .
go look for the youth center in your new area or an arcade, that's were people your age hang out
2007-01-23 07:27:14 · answer #11 · answered by sasavert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋