In chemistry I got an 84, which is one point alway from a B...and my teacher won't give it to me. She said that she has done all she could. My question is that...can one C give really good colleges reason to prefer other applicants?
Also, my mom wants me to go to Harvard. Even when I confronted her and she said I can go to any college I want to... I can sense that its something that she wants. I can read the pride in her soul with the thought of me going to Harvard, and she has mentioned Harvard more than once. She was like, "Your Aunt Kim attended Harvard," and, "Harvard is a very good school." Something along those lines.
I said to my mom, "Why would Harvard accept me? I don't get all A's." Her response was, "You get a lot more A's than B's. I would be your honor." I told her that it was too much pressure. On AP Exams, you would have to get a 5 in order to get collge credit; other schools they will accept 4's. She then said, "You don't have to feel pressured. Do your best."
2007-01-23 06:56:16 · 16 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ah, it's too much pressure.
2007-01-23 06:56:53 · update #1
Your question covers a lot of things.
First, stop trying to get your teacher to change your grade. Take the grade you earned and take responsibility for it. That's a more important lesson than anything Harvard could teach you.
No, one C does not necessarily ruin your chances of getting into the school of your choice (I assume we're talking about a grade on your report card and not an individual test or something). Keep working hard to keep your other grades up and keep your GPA up.
Your mother may have some dreams of you going to Harvard, but even from what you've said she isn't pressuring you. She's clearly told you that, while she's pro-Harvard, you can go to any school you want. Believe her.
Look into a lot of colleges and decide which is the right choice for you--location, size, what kind of program they have in your major, all kinds of factors. Picking a school because your parents like it is about the worst reason in the world to decide--probably right after deciding that you need to go to Harvard when all you really know about it is the name.
2007-01-23 07:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you got a C! I failed a class 2 marking periods in a row in high school and wound up with a D average for that class and still got into a great college, graduated with honors, got accepted to law school and to an MBA program, and have a very successful career.
I usually got As and Bs in high school but there was one class that I just could not understand no matter how hard I tried. My life was not over because of that class and in fact when I had a similar class in college I got all As and tutored my classmates.
Harvard is not the only good college and in reality Harvard might get your foot in the door because of it's prestige but as long as you have a degree from an accredited school, you are no less than educated than a Harvard student is.
If you feel pressured you have to tell your mom that she is putting too much pressure on you to perform. And please stop pressuring yourself. There are so many good schools out there and only a handful of Ivy League schools that only accept so many students in one year. By sheer probablily many of the most capable students will not be accepted just because there is no room for them.
2007-01-23 15:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life isnt ruined. I know what it feels like to be under pressure about college, but the bottom line is that your parents just want to see you succeed. Remember that this is YOUR life too, you need to ask yourself, do YOU want to go to Harvard? Because if you dont and your heart is not in it, you may as well not even try because it will be a waste and you won't truly enjoy your college experience. You only get one life, make sure you make decisions for yourself so that you won't have any regrets in the future.
But NO, life isn't ruined. It's what you make of it, I made A's & B's & maybe a C or two and still ended up at one of the best schools in Texas. Enjoy college, it is a blast (even with all the classes and tests)!
2007-01-23 15:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is this your final grade for the year, or the status result? If it is the final grade, there is nothing you can do to change it. Accept it and study harder to make up for the one bad mark. If it is not the final grade, go back to your teacher and ask if you could do an extra credit project. Do some research and come up with a plan on how you could earn an extra few points.
The thing about schools like Harvard, they look at more than just grades. They look at what else you are doing as well, what clubs, sports, humanitarian groups you belong to. Often you have to write essays and go to interviews to be accepted.
2007-01-23 15:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by dani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to regroup and look around for a college that YOU want to go to. Thats all find and dandy that your auntie went to harvard, but that does not mean that you have to. This can't be the first nor will it be the last time that you have done something that your mother disapproved of. You want to be happy as a college student, you don't want nor do you need the pressure. Can you imagine all of those other kids that are at harvard because their parents said that this is the school tht you are going to go to.
2007-01-23 15:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to go to Harvard? You need to remember this is your life, not your mom's. If this is not your school of choice, there is no reason to worry about it. It doesn't matter who else went there. You need to go where you want. If you don't really want to be there, you won't thrive in the environment. I am not sure the entrance criteria, but I believe most schools take everything into consideration. One lower grade won't make or break you. I think you need to do some serious soul searching before you make a commitment.
2007-01-23 15:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by doodlebuttus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grades aren't everything. sure they mean a lot but there is something else that also means a lot. this is your attitude. a person with a good attitude that may only have c's and b's will have more success than somebody that gets straight a's or a's and b's but has a bad attitude so don't put a lot of pressure on yourself. just do the best you can. i'm sure your mom will be proud of you no matter what college you go to. good luck. hope this helps.
2007-01-23 16:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
...hi.
one person can achieve what one person can achieve given the realizations of that person with more or less respects to the condtions which are surmountable in the purpose to be by doing and having disciplines.
the realizations which occupy your mind are already preparing for loss by concerning your self with possibilities of (non)achievement.
but you do not have full control of all realizations. because others have relationship to you.
and they have influence of your purpose. this is relationship.
but you are now created to realize more fully the possibilities which go beyond one self (and other since your mom is influential).
here is where you let your mind be open to you. you are greater than all of these realizations because where ever you go to do or to be and to have .... you will be achieving your personal purpose to realize all of this.
life is creating now.
do not worry about not meeting one seemingly great end purpose (which is created by encouragement and unfolding of willing and unwilling probabilities) but rather know you are much desired in many other places for what you think and act in love.
let your moms encouragement be perceived in this greater light.
be well and good luck in your self resolve
2007-01-23 15:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no a C will not ruin your chances. As far as Harvard, it is your life, do what is right for you. My daughter gave up going to the college she wanted to because a boyfriend would not go with her, she regrets that to this day as he was not worth it. You should please yourself and not others, it is your life.
2007-01-23 15:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is not done yet. Heh, its just started for you and for me. I do not think that one C will end your life. I have gotten F's in my freshmen and sophomore year in high school but I keep trying harder and I am on my way to college soon. The fight isn't done yet, don't let them win.
More importantly, colleges look at community service and extracirruvluar activities as opposed to all A's.
2007-01-23 15:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Trublood 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋