I love him and used to be very in love with him. We were living together and I tried everything to make him happy. Then I found out he gave his new cell # to his ex. A girl he dated last year when we broke up last year.
We have been together off and on 6 years. I care about him and we are close. I don't know if I am ready to hurt him right now. I kicked him out when I found the ex was calling, it hurt my feelings since he was always gone anyway and never took me. I figured he can go hang with her. He swears nothing is going on and he does not want her he wants me.
Can it be possible to live together just as friends? Or should I just go on? I am 26 and he is 22.
He wants to know why I don't call him and sounds sad. That makes me feel sad. But I don't know what to do. Try again, or just be friends with him.
Thoughts?
2007-01-23 06:39:38 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow you sounds like me except we don't live together. I will tell you what I had to pay a therapist to tell me. We are not stupid - trust our instinct. Their problems - i.e. where is he going to live are not our issues. When we put them before us it is codependency. I denied myself that I had this issue but I even today just posted a question that I already know the answer to but need some assurance I am feeling right. When we doubt our own judgment then it is time to walk away and remember to love ourselves. Trust your gut - it sounds like you know what to do...you are one foot out the door. You will be ok if you take the other step and his recovery is not yours to own and manage. Good luck to you...I know it's hard.
2007-01-23 06:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by PrBela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw shucks! So he's sad, huh?! He should have considered how sad it would make you that he need to continue to communicate with his ex-girllfriend. And he wanted you both! Now that's sad!! Don't let him off the hook. He should be racking his brain trying to figure out a way to make it up to you instead of you trying to figure out what to do. You said a) he's always gone b) he doesn't take you with him and c) he gave his new cell phone number to his ex. It's possible to live together as just friends, but not after having been together as a couple for so long. That would be too confusing for you both.
2007-01-23 06:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is calling his ex move on. You women are TOO emotional and you play with those emotions way too much. Stop, step abck and think rationally. If you were both really in love, he would have no reason for an ex, and you would have no reason for this question. You would just get through the bad times as best as possible. The fact of the existance of this question alone says you need to move on and find someone you truly are or will be happy with.
2007-01-23 06:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Gazette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good god. It is pretty obvious he is banging this other chick.
He never takes me anywhere with him. Thats because he is over there banging suzie or whatever her name is. Quit being a damn fool and find someone else. How can you love someone who is already sh*tting all over you and you aren't even married.
I have a better idea. Marry up with dumbo have about 5 kids and sit there and cry whenever he is out banging suzie and ignoring you.
Get a clue. Men are the biggest friggin liars on the planet earth. I know I am a man. A man will tell you anything to keep getting between your legs. He is over at suzies every night but nothing is going on. Its like this dumbass boy who was trying to tell my daughter he was a virgin. A 22 year old hunka hunka of burning love telling her he was a virgin. I looked at her and said ARE YOU REALLY THAT FRIGGIN STUPID. Needless to say she dumped hunka hunka burning love.
Get rid of this bum. There are plenty of men. Oh I love him.
He does not love you. You know what when I met my wife I could hardly stand to be away from her. I literally wanted to spend all of my free time with her. Even after 14 years I still enjoy being around her and her company. You and this guy aren't out of the gate and he doesn't want to be around you except probably when you have your legs spread open.
AHHHHHHHH I don't understand young people.
2007-01-23 06:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love, dating a 22 year old guy means that he's at the same maturity level that you were at when you were 19. You're 26. I'm not knocking age differences, I'm just asking you to think about it that way. There's emotionally 7 years between you. If you don't trust him then don't be with him. You deserve to be in a trusting, loving relationship. Don't let him guilt you into getting back with him because he's sad. He'll bounce back.
2007-01-23 06:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately don't go back. The worst thing in a relationship is to lose trust and he destroyed that by talking to his ex behind your back. Whether it was harmless or not with all the time you have been together he should be able to trust in you enough to tell you anything so he can't say he was afraid to tell you. Find someone who will appreciate you and love you the way you deserve.
2007-01-23 06:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is not ready to settle down 22 is still to young. Your older why not find someone and move on with your life.
There are better men out there then him and more mature.
He is playing on the mother instinct in you and if he sounds hurt or sad he knows you will give in
Don't be stupid. DUMP him
2007-01-23 06:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i know just how your feel. Ive been through it. Are you a jealous person. Im not afraid to admit that i am. It makes it harder to be in a relationship if you are. See i cant stay the ***** (his ex). No really i cant stand ANY of them. But i yall REALLY love each other yall both can put all this behind yall. Try starting out slow. It works really. I hate it for ya cause i know you feel like he doesnt want you. Trust me, i been through it.
2007-01-23 06:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by me1026 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible for them to be friends, but not likely.
If you have solid evidence they are more than friends, then I would use that to base such a huge decision on.
If you make a decision based on incorrect conclusions, you could be making the wrong decision.
If you are having trust issues, and you don't feel like you can take him at his word, then try and get some more facts.
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2007-01-23 06:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Daniel L, He's playing with you and your emotions. Sounds like he needs to grow up. Dump him and the games he's playing. I wouldn't worry about hurting him as it appears he isn't worried about hurting you. Calling and hanging out with his 'ex' is a clear sign of trouble for your relationship with him. You need to move on and find someone a bit more mature who is willing to invest their time with you. Good luck.
2007-01-23 06:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Hogman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋