I'd like to know what your thoughts are on grandchildren. Would you be disappointed if your children never had kids of their own, so you could not fulfil the grandparenting role?
Is your opinion the general concensus amongst most parents?
Thank you for your time, this question wasn't meant as an offence so I apologise in advance if it seems that way.
2007-01-23 06:29:11 · 30 answers · asked by DaveyMcB 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i would love for my kids to give me grandchildren when they grow up, in fact i think i would be disappointed if they didn't. But on the other hand i would want them to have them under the right circumstances such as, being married with a good career, that is myt dream for my daughters, but i suppose it is their prerogative in the end isn't it?
2007-01-23 06:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Diddley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be disappointed if they didn't. I understand not wanting children, as I didn't want any either. But at the age of 35, I got pregnant with my first and 37 with my second. I am glad I had them though. It has opened my eyes and they have given me such a better life. But if they never have them, that is OK. I will be a very old grandma if they do.
I think most women want to be a grandma. I think it comes from the fact that women that old, loved having children and would love to have more, but because of age, can't. So grandchildren are the closest to that. Plus they go home with mom.
2007-01-23 14:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably miss not having grandkids, but it wouldn't be a crushing disappointment. Raising kids takes lots of time, energy, and money. And when you look at the state of the world some days, you have to wonder if you would bring a kid into it sometimes.
Besides, the decision to have kids or not have kids is one that the parents make, not the grandparents. I'd just step back and let them conduct their life as they think best, and only ask that they grant me the same favor.
I have no idea if my position is the same as other parents - I've never conducted a poll on the topic. What others may think on this doesn't really influence me much.
2007-01-23 14:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We have one grandson and he is the joy of our life.You never think you can love anyone as much as your own children but then our grandson came along and he's the apple of our eye. Our youngest child is 17 (we have 3) and my husband and I was starting to experience the empty nest syndrome. It's hard when you are used to having your kids around and before you know it they are all grown up and leaving home. My husband and I do alot of things together but we miss having our children around all the time. I think when you don't have grandchildren you don't know what you are missing but once you get them you can't imagine life without them. We call our daughter up and ask to take our grandson (he's 2) for the day and it gives our daughter and her husband some time to themselves. It makes our day and gives them a break.
2007-01-27 00:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was very excited at the thought of being a grand parent my 1st grandchild was born 11 years ago he now has a brother who is 9 and a little sister who is 6 they now all live with me because my daughter is addicted to heroin so my role has changed from granny to mum i also have 4 other grandchildren that i can spoil like grandchildren hope this helps
2007-01-23 14:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by emarston@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love my children to experience the joy of having kids, but we live in such an awful world, the environment is falling apart, society appears to be falling apart, what exactly will there be to offer children in generations to come?, extreme climates and the associated knock on effects on global society! These thoughts make me very sad and i'm sure lots of other individuals feel the same.
2007-01-26 12:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by nikguenever60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Well I would be sad and I guess a little disappointed but all I want is for them to be happy. My thoughts on the topic don't matter as what ever happens will be 100% ok with me... My daughter says she doesn't want kids anyway!! Very early days though!
2007-01-23 14:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love children so would like grandchidren but on the other hand I hope that my girls get what they want out of life before having kids. I t's a hard question to answer cos there are many pros and cons for both us as parents and for our kids!
2007-01-23 14:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 with 2 children.i love family life and as my 'babies' seem to have grown up so much[they are 5+6,but it feels like i had them yesterday] my next mission is being nanny.i often think about it.i think think,although i want to see both my children happy,its a wish i want fullfilled for ME.its very selfish iknow.at the moment though,im just enjoying being mum.i do think i would be dissapointed if my kids didnt have children of their own though.your question isnt offensive.i hope this has helped.
2007-01-23 14:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a dad,and yes I have to say that I will be looking forward to fulfilling the grandparents roll,but my girl who is 17 has said she will not be having children,I would be disappointed if she didn't,but it's her choice,I'd still love her.
2007-01-23 14:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ken J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋