How do you get over someone you cant stop thinking about?

Answer 1

Keep busy. Be a social butterfly...make sure you always have plans.

It helps to talk about things to your friends. You WILL get over this person and I know it's a cliche but time really does heal.

Answer 2

I think Oscar Wilde said "the only way to resist the temptation is not to resist it" . If you cannot get over someone than dont. I know some people say it is not healthy, but dont supress anything in yourself getting busy or sleeping with someone else, that is stupid. Just let yourself in the feelings, they will go away when the time is right.

Answer 3

I had a rebound relationship after my marriage was over, and it broke my heart. My boyfriend told me he loved me and I thought I loved him at the time. I later realized I was just feeling vulnerable and needing to feel loved, and that I didn't really love him after all. We broke up and he later told me that he never really loved me, but just told me that he did. That hurt me deeply. It took almost a year to get over him and to stop thinking about him. You can't rush getting over someone. You just can't. What you can do however, is to find other activities that occupy your time so that you are either too busy to think about that other person, or you are too tired to do so. For me, I went to the gym a lot and I will say that exercise goes a long way to feeling good emotionally. When you are doing something good for your body, you not only feel good physically, but you get those endorphins going that help you emotionally as well. Another thing I did was to be extra productive in my job. I met my fiance through e-Harmony.com. I just wanted to take their personality profile (free) to get an assessment of my personality. I wasn't seeking anyone. I only wanted to see what it said about my personality. With that website, when you do that, they automatically send you matches of people that they feel you would be well suited for based on your profile. In order to view those matches, you have to sign up for a membership. I was intrigued, so I got a 30-day membership. That is when I saw my fiance. Everything about him was so much like what I need in a man. I began to communicate with my matches through their site and found that was a very pleasant way to get my mind off of my ex-boyfriend. Once I met my fiance and we spent 14 hours together on our first date, I realized I had met my "soul mate" (if you believe in those). We have been together for a year and plan to be married soon. My point is this: it takes time to get over someone, but you can speed up the process by exercise, staying busy, socializing and putting yourself out there for others to notice. That will make you feel better and will help you to realize that you will be okay without that person and that there is hope that you will find someone new when the time is right. Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

I know it hurts when you reminisce, therefore, the best way to get over someone is to find a fulfilling career that will challenge you, while at the same time, keep you extremely busy to stop & think since you'll be enjoying yourself so much in your newfound career.

Answer 5

Usually by finding someone else, or even something else like new hobbies, to think about. When I split from my ex, I visited my friend who had moved, and went clubbing alot. It helped me.

(Though I will say be careful as you may be fragile emotionally. Don't do anything you may regret later and flings dont always help especially if you are 'on the rebound'.)

Answer 6

Recall all of those incidents that led up to the breakup, when they weren't kind to you (or others), when they lied to you, flirted shamelessly with someone else in your presence, screwed you over, made you feel inadequate, failed to stick up for you, wasn't there for you, the difficulty you had communicating, etc. There had to be some reason why you broke up--remember those reasons and it'll be easier staying the heck out of their way.

Answer 7

Is very hard, I don't know the situation but if that person don't worth it you have to try really hard to get her or him over you r mind.
Try with your friends or something else.
I have the same situation, I fell in love with my best girl friend and I cant keep her of my mind.


Good Luck

Answer 8

Think of it like a bad habit...

the best thing that I think works is distraction.

Do things aren't part of your normal day...trying new things takes up a lot of mental and emotional energy.

You really have to WANT to get over them...be patient it takes time.

Answer 9

When you think of them, have something that you say to yourself each time. For example, "He's not available," or "She will never love me."

Back away from the person, find other things to do. Concentrate on yourself. Find things that you enjoy--music, food, friends, movies, etc. Do those things.

Answer 10

Thats hard. Just grit your teeth and carry on, find things that interest you and focus on those, meet new people. Keep your mind occupied with anything except that person.