there is this guy at work that i work with. he asked me 2 in a half months ago if i had a boyfriend. i said no and we have been together since. when we are together we play around ex. cuddleing on the couch, kissing, touching etc. but no sex yet. because i am a vergin he is ok with that no sex. when the people that we both work with ask him what we are he says that we are just friends. because we play around when someone asks me what we are i say bf/gf. i then talked to him about that and he said that because of past relationships and moving to fast with them he wants to take our relationship slow. he has been engaged twice and they both dident work out. so i think thats why he wants to take things slow. if he just wants to take things slow and be friends. why do we play around? what does this mean? he tells other people one thing and with me we do another. does he like me more than he is saying? or does he just want to play around and really doesn't like me at all.
2007-01-23 06:21:39 · 11 answers · asked by sunshinebutterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no worries, girl...i have known guys who, coz of past experiences, take it slow n steady...however if it bothers u n dont wanna get physical under the tag of being 'just\good frnds'..u can lay it on table n sort it out...n last but not the least...u should be askin this q to him than strangers here....
healthy talks always pave way to favourable solutions
2007-01-23 06:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by close_in_destroy_everything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. He just doesn't like you the way you want him to like you. I think you should stop playing w/him! You want a relationship. This isn't going anywhere...your just anouther challenge to get something he can't have right now..or a replacement for a relationship he can't commit to...so unless you like playing pretend...and that's ok...cause I have a male playmate (it's great and it stinks, too- because I really like him)...then...either accept that is all it is...or move on....staying in unfullfilling relationships have the benefits of not having to invest into a serious commitment with someone you actually enjoy being with. The down side..is usually the end result is disappointing, because you went into a relationship...expecting it to fail. Does this make sense?
2007-01-23 14:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Win 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak to him again about it and have him clarify what his intentions are. If he states just friends then I would stop the cuddling and kissing, that's not what friends do, he's just using you (it's called friends with benefits). To be at all intimate you should be in an exclusive relationship, meaning being bf/gf, anything less and he is just looking out for his needs.
Move on if he can't get over his past relationships, you shouldn't have to settle for just friends if that's not what you want.
2007-01-23 14:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first things first. you should ask him if he is like that with only you or if there are other girls he does this with. he could really like you but is afraid of begining something and ruin the friendship. have you told him your feelings in a clear way, or were you kinda indirect?????? a slow relationship becomes stronger with the passing of time because you can see if what you have is an infatuation(he makes you feel good so you want to be with him) or if you really like him and care for him(you are willing to wait whatever is neccesary to be with him). you love will grow and you will know eachother even deeply. he must like you if he is doing those things because if he doesn't i doubt that he would be so loving. respect his decision but make your points clear. tell him what you want and see if you both have a common interest. good luck
2007-01-23 14:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are as vague with him as you are in your wording of this question. Then you're most definitely not his girlfriend. How many times did you say "play around" in that question? What the hell does that even mean?
Why don't you cut the baby talk like your 6 years old and just come right out and ask him? If you're old enough to have an adult relationship, you should be old enough to stand up and ask an adult question.
2007-01-23 14:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he taking you on dates? Is he spending a good amount of time with you outside of work? Then he is a boyfriend. If not, then he not being fair to you. He's also saying that he's not your boyfriend. So, I'd stop playing around with him. Find a good guy that can be a boyfriend. A good book for you is He's Just Not That Into Me.
2007-01-23 14:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont know what hes thinking, but it looks to me its as if ur just someone there. Dont let this guy take advantage of you, talk to him about how you feel and be straight forward with him. You dont want to be that person that hes using to get over his ex's.
2007-01-23 14:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt u just post this...im gonna answer the same:
hes getting some and not having to make the commitment. therefore, he doesnt feel obligated to call u if he doesnt want to, treat u to dinners, etc. u need to get out now or continue to be used. my roomie is going thru the same things u are and its been going on for 4 months or more...and they are still just "friends" and he continues to date other girls on the side, even with her at his apt waiting on him to get back....sad huh?
2007-01-23 14:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
its hard to tell with a guy like him. his being hurt by two others make it a little ruff for hem he for on is not sure of the relationship and want to keep his heart safe. it's up to you to reassure him that it okay.
2007-01-23 14:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow everything down.
2007-01-23 14:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by mai51156 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋