My ex boyfriends just died in a car accident. We were together for a year and broke up 3 months ago. I have met someone else who I am in love with. My ex's family told me about the funeral and would like me to be there. I want to remember my ex like he was, also I didn't plan on seeing him again after we broke up. I am very sad he died and I am going to go to where he died and put some flowers there and tell him goodbye. I loved him very much but we just did not get along and thats why we broke up. Does anyone have any good advice?
2007-01-23 06:16:36 · 25 answers · asked by jolie t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, out of RESPECT....
2007-01-23 06:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you don't go it will bother you in later years . Life is funny that way . Old loves an d feelings are remembered when you get old and have time to reminisce . Right now it seems all so far away but it really is not . You cared about him once , you were together for quite a while. His family must have thought a lot about you otherwise they would not have told you . Do take the time off from work and attend the funeral. Tell him good bye there and not along a street .
It will close a chapter .
2007-01-23 06:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin just went through the same thing. She is remarried now and when he died the family called and wanted her to come and see them and go to the funeral and they even wanted her to sit in the family section with them at the funeral (she was very close to his family as well). She ended up going because even though they were broken up they were friends before and it is more like being support for his family (and they probably need all the support they can get). Hopefully your new boyfriend will understand if he loves you!
2007-01-23 06:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!
Death is much more important than a triffling breakup b/w boyfriend and girlfriend. Your relationship with him --- though special in its own rite to you two --- has little to do with what the funeral entails. A funeral is an overall celebration and remembrance of this man's life.
Plus, the family invited you so I'm sure there are no HUGE gaping wounds that will effect you being there. Think girl!
2007-01-23 06:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to go pay your respects. If the family thinks enough of you to call you with details, and you i'm sure, still love him, then you should go. Your boyfriend now should understand. But it will help you say goodbye and you know he would want you there anyhow. It's not like your going cuz you are wanting to be with him, you are going out of love ans respect for him and his family. You should go! Good luck! and Sorry for the lose!
2007-01-23 06:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by nalerij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description of the situation I'd say that you since you once "loved" him you need to pay your last respects amongst others that loved him too. I'm unsure of the extenuating circumstances of your breakup, but nevertheless, death is the finality of everything and all should be given I believe.... you'll feel better if you pay your respects becaus if you don't go I guarantee you'll regret it (otherwise why would you ask for advice about something you didn't care about)
2007-01-23 06:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the funeral. The family requested that you be there. Your new boyfriend shouldn't have a problem with it so I'd say yes go, it's the right thing to do.
2007-01-23 06:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help bring closure for you to attend the funeral services, and his family would probably appreciate your presence. You spent a year with this guy and his family probably developed real affection for you. Nevertheless, it's your choice as to whether you attend the funeral services. Everyone grieves in their own way, so it's okay whatever you choose to do.
2007-01-23 06:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow you heart and do exactly as you said you are wanting to do here. Call his family after the service and tell them you were just too upset to face that and then go put the flowers out. God Bless You.
2007-01-23 06:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is though just go to the funeral it will be like a last kiss or something just go and be there because if you dont and they invited you then it will mean alot to them dont reject an invitation especially when that's the last time you will ever see him
2007-01-23 06:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you HAVE to. I mean it comes done to you, but dont you think that if he would be in your position he would go. That would be like me saying, "im not going to my dads funeral b-c we never really got along". SAME THING!!! If you did truly love him, then that love never fanished. There is still a part of you that misses him. so take my advice and go. Go and see his face one more time...
2007-01-23 06:30:17 · answer #11 · answered by tia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋