Parents, how would you react to this attitude from your daughter?

Question

I'm 15 and for months I've been resentful of my parents. They don't understand and has some attitudes I didn't like and made me resentful. As though they werre always against me. I ended up hurting them too, said a lot of hurtful things to them. I felt like they were using their parental authority to opress me and for several months I've been cold, distant, refusing their attempts to make up. But I got tired of this situation and after thinking sincerely about what happened I had to agree in many points they were right. Though I said hurtful things to them when I lost my temper, they didn't take a revenge, just got sad. I still think in some points they are wrong and I have reason to be a bit resentful. I regret some of my attitudes. If I get to them, say despite our fights I love them dearly, apologize for my mistakes, break the ice and say I just want to talk, but without fights or accusations, how will they react? I'd like the opinion of parent

Answer 1

It will all work out. Are you the oldest? If so they are learning as well. Most of us are doing the best we can and always have the kids safety at heart. I think they will appreciate your grown up attitude toward making amends, and should not argue. With so much danger in the world now and the Internet they may just be worried and not know how to deal with, be patient, they will find a way. You may have to bend to their rules at first, but just show them your are responsible and make smart choices, they will lighten up. Remember its hard for us to see our kids grow up, but don't miss out on being a kid either, enjoy as long as you can.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

I am a mother of a 15 yr old daughter. We don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, we had a huge fight and she moved in with her dad, she told me I didn't understand her, after about a month with her dad, she realized that She was wrong and I was only partially right. She wrote me a letter apologizing for her actions and expressed all her concerns down on paper and left it in my mailbox oneday. That night she called and asked if I still loved her. No matter what We(the parents) will always love our children unconditionally. We(the parents) are not always right, but we were once teenagers and we know from experience what to expect and what not to expect and we are just trying make sure you know how we handled different situations at your age. Never break that line of communications with your parents, we still love you no matter what. We will never agree on everything but if you keep the communication line open anything can be worked out together.She has since moved back in with me and we are closer now than we ever were before.

Answer 3

I am the mother of 15 year old and at times we disagree because she thinks that her father and are trying to prevent her from having fun but we are trying to protect her. There have been a few times when she became angry with us (but she has never disrespected with us) and she will storm off to her room. However we definitely had a major breakthrough when the morning after we told her that she couldn't go to a teen club in our area, we saw on the news that there was a fight at the club and a girl her age was stabbed. She finally saw that we weren't trying to prevent her from having fun but that we want her to have safe fun. She came to us and apologized and she said that she now understood why we said no and that she was grateful. We also compromised with her on some things that we thought we could change because she is getting a little older. By going to your parents and admitting that they were right (mostly, lol), it will show them that you have matured and they will be more open to listen to your suggestions. However, I want you to remember that they may give in on some things but others they will not and believe me when I say that when you grow up you will appreciate what your parents are trying to do and that is to protect you. Good luck and I hope that they will allow you to do more of the (safe) things that you want to do.

Answer 4

You will only understand how much your parents love you until you have a child yourself. You are everything to them. They are older and more experienced in life and know a lot of things that you do not quite understand yet. It is their responsibility to guide you - so listen to their advice - because it comes with love.

The only love you will experience on earth (other than Gods love) that is unconditional - is that love of your parents. Of course when you said hurtful things they did not take revenge, but only got sad - because it hurt them more deeply than you can understand. I am sure that if you apologize and tell them you love them they will listen (but guess what - they already know that you love them). Tell them you want to talk without a fight - and they will - but don't expect "talking" to change their position - but it may help give them a little more understanding as to what is going on in your head and your feelings. Also, let them explain to you their stand on this issue - it may shed some light.

Just remember - they love you sooooooo much - and only want what is best for you.

Answer 5

Wow. Ok, I am the parent of a 13 almost 14 year old. All parents are different, but it sounds to me that you trust your parents. Unfortunatly you are all going to have disagreements. That happens in all relationships. But I do think that it is fair for you to ask your parents for a "fair fight". You are intitled to have your own feelings and opinions, and to be respected. As do your parents. Just continue to love them, apologize when you know you need to.......communicate with them. I believe they love you and just want the very best for you. Keep that in mind,k? Good Luck!

Answer 6

you say your parents don't understand believe me they do .you know we were young at one time also and proably felt the same way about our parents they are only trying to do what is best for you and to keep you safe.you should not act ugly with your parents cause you know we won't always be around and we are trying to prepare you kids for that big old ugly world out there.Let me tell you something my oldest son was kind of like you and you knowwhat he has been missing for 3 years so be a good girl and cherish your parents the way they cherish you. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

if they are loving parents then they are probebly as misrable about all of this as you are, and if you go to them they will probebly be very happy.
As long as there is parents and children there will be conflicts, hurt feelings, and pride the most important thing is to remember that You love each other and you can never take back the hurt that some words cause

Answer 8

I have 16 year old twin daughters and deal with attitudes all the time. Sit down with your parents and tell them you want to talk things out. Keep your cool. Don't raise your voice and ask them not to raise theirs. Don't roll your eyes when they say things you don't like. When they set rules you have to abide by them. Remember that you are only 15 and they are your parents and you have to respect them. Good luck.

Answer 9

Am sure they would be glad for you to be yourself again. You need to understand that they are doing the best they can. No one is perfect. And adolescence is hard on all kids. Tell them your difficulties and keep an open mind. Try to see their points of view. Am sure they will try to see yours. They are here to help guide you. Are to be respected always whether you agree with them or not.

Answer 10

you know your parents best.
have they cooled down from the fight, sounds like you have
I would sit and talk with you, but some might not, you need to decide what your parrents are like!
admiting where you were wrong is a good step, you can make no progress if you dont, so your on the right patt
good luck