My husband and I have been married for 9 1/2 years.
Last year I discovered he had been having adulterous relationships with 2 women over the course of 3 1/2 years.
I filed for divorce.
10 days before the finalization of the divorce proceedings, the Lord put me in a church I had never attended, having been invited there by a new aquaintance that I met through a mutual friend.
The pastor delivered a sermon about broken families. The story of David and Bathsheba and told us he had never talked about adultery during service before.
When I was introduced to the large congregation, it just so happened the two men sitting beside me in the pew were friends with my husbands deceased father in high school.
The choir sang several songs, including "Shout to The Lord" one of my very very favorites.
All the time I kept wishing my husband were there with me. The next night we were eating dinner together and making plans to reconcile and rebuild our lives. We had not spoken in several months.
2007-01-23 05:57:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have been happy. We are happy and I feel that the demons that entered both of us have been cast out in Jesus name.
I would like to have a vow renewal ceremony and need the PERFECT scripture.
Any ideas???
2007-01-23 05:58:36 · update #1
1 Cor. 13:1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part;
10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away.
11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.
12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.
13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
God bless you and good luck!!
2007-01-23 06:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You have way more forgivness and understanding then I do, 2 women within 3 1/2 years, thats not just cheating thats going on a hay day! Are you absolutely positive that there is no humanly way possible that there could be someone better for you out there, or are you staying with this guy because you feel you can't do any better and deserve to be treated with so much disrespect? You said that there was a demon in YOU?! Doesn't sound like it to me at all, that sounds like an excuse you're making for yourself to justify staying with a man that wants to use you and walk all over you. Good Luck with the renewal, but when he does it again...well I guess you can't be too upset with him cause you chose to ignore the real signs the first time around. God may not have been giving you signs to renew the relationship, he may have been giving them to you to let you know you were doing the right thing for you. It seems like you jumped the gun on the reconciliation dinner.
2007-01-23 06:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 12:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to spend the rest of your life with someone. There's going to be tough times in any marriage. The main key is always communication, if either of you is holding back you'll never be able to reconcile. If you can trust him again, and if you can forgive him, and if you really want to be together it will work out. It'll take a lot of work, and a lot of communication to make it work though. Go slow, you still have a lot of time, and it'll take awhile to build that trust again. Go out, and distract yourself, and have fun together, maybe like you did when you first started dating. Everyone desrves a second chance, but make it clear if he cheats again it's over.
Good luck.
Oh and as for the bible, I think it said to kill him, so I went with this instead.
2007-01-23 06:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so glad that you are feeling better in your spiritual life but I cannot (nor could any good woman of sound mind and body) condone or assist you in making a second mistake. A man that was unfaithful to you with 2 different women for YEARS is not someone you should entrust your heart or your spirit to. Let him go and find the man that God truly intended for you. Your husband was not possessed by a demon of any kind, other than his own mind and there was certainly no demon within YOU. Remember, God only helps those who help themselves! How can He help you if you will not cast the demon out that you allow to sleep in your bed?
2007-01-23 06:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-01-23 06:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
David committed adultery. Remember him? The guy who killed Goliath and became king?
Is so obvious that God used your friend to take to to that church. You felt His spirit moving you. Why would someone fight the Holy Spirit? People, don't ask her to go against her convictions. If she is willing to work with her husband then pray for her, don't condemn or discourage her.
God bless you for your open-mindedness about forgiveness. He clearly has plans for your marriage.
answergrrl3: There is absolutely no place in the bible that say anything close to "God helps those who help themselves." Jesus never ever said that. Ben Franklin did. That phrase is actually against Jesus' teaching.
2007-01-23 06:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't remember the exact verse but it's in the first part of Genesis where it talks about man being commanded to leave his parents and cleave to his wife and to never forsake her. Or something like that. It's in the first few chapters. I'm sure you can find it.
I wish you many blessings in you and your husband's rededication to each other. :)
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2016-04-16 10:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋