there is this guy at work that i work with. he asked me 2 in a half months ago if i had a boyfriend. i said no and we have been together since. when we are together we play around ex. cuddleing on the couch, kissing, touching etc. but no sex yet. because i am a vergin he is ok with that no sex. when the people that we both work with ask him what we are he says that we are just friends. because we play around when someone asks me what we are i say bf/gf. i then talked to him about that and he said that because of past relationships and moving to fast with them he wants to take our relationship slow. he has been engaged twice and they both dident work out. so i think thats why he wants to take things slow. if he just wants to take things slow and be friends. why do we play around? what does this mean? he tells other people one thing and with me we do another. does he like me more than he is saying? or does he just want to play around and really doesn't like me at all.
2007-01-23 05:57:08 · 14 answers · asked by sunshinebutterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Playing around is not going to fast if you've been together a couple months. (personal opinion) He has obviously been burned bad and isn't willing to go any further or commit to something right now. Give him a little time and he'll probably come around
2007-01-23 06:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does like you and he enjoys the physical contact. It's almost like new to him and so he may be somewhat conflicted with his emotions due to past bad experiences. He may not feel comfortable about it, but you guys are a little more than friends--after all you guys do mess around and I'll bet you that you guys kiss too.
Do take it slow and if you are asked what your relationship is, just say it is a work in progress.
2007-01-23 14:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh he has had his heart stepped on a few times and he was probably told that he took it too fast. Sit down and explain to him that if we are dating and its 3-4 months , this is a relationship and its the proper term for it. Tell him you arent moving fast but merely asking you behave and remain on the same page as you because you like him and dont want this to end badly.
Ifd he doesnt understand., i suggest you let go and move on
2007-01-23 14:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean a couple of things. For one he could just want to keep what's between you two private and not have to deal with the questions that would follow if he said you two were together. Or he could be seeing if he could be your first and not wanting to admit to anyone that he's with you so as to make it easier to cut ties after he gets what he wants. I don't know him or you guys relationship so it would be hard to tell you what's going on.
2007-01-23 14:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes getting some and not having to make the commitment. therefore, he doesnt feel obligated to call u if he doesnt want to, treat u to dinners, etc. u need to get out now or continue to be used. my roomie is going thru the same things u are and its been going on for 4 months or more...and they are still just "friends" and he continues to date other girls on the side, even with her at his apt waiting on him to get back....sad huh?
2007-01-23 14:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, either he's embarassed about your relationship and doesnt want to admit that things are serious to people or he's using you to fool around with until something better comes along....either way it doesnt look good....he could be interested in someone else and wants them to think he's still available and just messing around with you for fun....i dunno.....no good scenarios come to mind...
2007-01-23 14:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by info seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he works with you and employers generally frown on co-workers dating, do you think maybe that is why he is trying to keep it hush hush and telling fellow coworkers that you and he are just friends? Hmm>?
2007-01-23 14:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by dan b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the loser, he is using you as just in case type of relationship. He is still looking for someone and when she comes you are out cold.
2007-01-23 14:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been here before....
i told the man i was seeing...you dont show me love in public...i dont show you love in private. after 2 1/2 months, if he doesnt take you more seriously than that...move on sister.
2007-01-23 14:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by yes_veruca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesn't want his privite life smeared around the office, romours and the like and i think hes quite happy with you being his girlfriend, it just saves hastle about you to at work. its nothing major
2007-01-23 14:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋