I used to think my partner was amazing,the mutt's nuts.but now when he approaches me for a kiss i just flinch away as there is no feeling there towards him.No passion.I dont even care what he gets upto these days.he is at the pub and i dont care what time he saunters in.HAVE I FALLEN OUT OF LOVE?!!!!I just feel NUMB towards him.
o.s my head is full of loads of other things(i.e work and accomodation)at the moment so maybe that is part of it????
2007-01-23 05:52:56 · 12 answers · asked by snuffylover4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...you feel the need to ask this question...
2007-01-23 05:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you ask means you still care, on some level.
You did not say how long you've been togetherbut sometimes people who are in love just kind of lose 'the spark'. You say you are caught up with work etc. but you need to decide if you are ready to just give up on this relationship if the answer is no then take some steps to save it.
Maybe you need to change your attitude. I think you need to have your partner as a priority even if it means scheduling time for each other(just like you would for a meeting at work). Talk things over, if there are specifics that you need to sort out do so. It may take awhile but the trick is to try to find a balance so you both can feel needed and loved. Maybe you need to tell your partner you need more time together, maybe you could work it out so instead of him always going to the pub, you could have a girls night out with your friends and a special night every other week or so for just the two of you.
After you've both reconnected you could taking a vacation, but its gonna be a waste on time to try to enjoy a vacation with someone you have no real desire to be with, but start with the little steps.
A relationship is hard work and unless you can look at recent events and find something concrete that he did to make you not love him, maybe you just need to make the effort to find the romance again. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-23 06:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be some sort of depression , getting stressed out can lead to a lack of feeling and emotion . You might want to give it some time before you jump in the deep end and blow off your relationship . You also have to think of the possibility that you may have fallen out of love with him . The fact you flinch away from him indicates your not happy . Give it some time and see if your feelings change . Best of luck x
2007-01-23 05:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by lauren a 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, these are not very good signs. Maybe you have just lost the excitement and lust, this can happen in long term relationships. Why not do something to bring the romance back, like something you used to do together at the begining of your relationship? I would also say that you must share your worries with him, he may not be aware of how stressed you are, and may be able to help you. If you do all these things and still feel the same, then i would say it's time to leave. Good luck!
2007-01-23 06:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should spend a little time apart, see how you feel. If you are still in love with him you will want to see him, if you barely think about him then it's probably time to move on.
2007-01-23 05:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by kittykatt5488 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've fallen out of love. Don't stay if you feel nothing for him. Move on and get another life for yourself.
2007-01-23 06:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you no longer want to share time with the person, when you don't want to be intimate, whe this person really starts to get on your nerves and irritates you at the least little thing, and when you cannot be bothered to pick up the phone and return calls.....when heres no feelings, when theres numbness (as you put it) it's time to move on sweetie....your not in love any more
2007-01-23 06:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should break up. You have definitely fallen out of love. Either that, or get some new sex toys : )
(it worked with my bf)
2007-01-26 21:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by x cutie x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm!
could b just a rocky patch.
but if he's annoying u, u couldn't care less where he is or what he's doing & u feel numb 2ward him.
sounds like u've plain & simply gone off him.
u'd better tell him & soon.
2007-01-23 05:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question in the first place, then you already know the answer. YES.
2007-01-23 05:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Imagine life without him. If you still say that you wouldnt care then its time to part I think.
2007-01-23 05:58:44 · answer #11 · answered by shilpa_poppadoon 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋