I am so fed up and stressed!!!!?

Question

Only 16 weeks pregnant but i don't feel like anyone is supporting me.

I get up at 6 am and got to work - spend 3 hours a day travelling on cramped transport - have a long day at work usually get back home at about 6 pm - and then have to cook or try and find something that I can eat- husband say's that i am different - just feel so distant from him - and i'm so tired all the time - I just want a bit of peace and quiet is that too much to ask for????

FAO: cryingrainbow

Actually i am also renovating my house and my hubby got made reduntant from his job - so i am a sole earner. I am also a carer for my mother. I have been doing everything around the house since i was 9 years old - so i am not moaning

and i am not showing pregnant at all - i am still wearing my usual clothes

Answer 1

I think you are entitled to feel cross and upset, I would! I am 17 weeks pregnant and know just how tiring it is....have you tried to explain to your husband just how hard you are finding things at the moment and maybe even talking to someone at work who may be able to help you delegate jobs etc? Can your husband cook at all, can he not help prepare food if he is at home? Maybe spending a bit of time at weekend shopping for food together so he feels he can get ideas for meals etc. Being pregnant is tough enough as it is, especially with little support. Really think you need to talk tohim or write it down for him to read if that would be easier.

On another note, why do people like CRYINGRAINBOW come on these sites to give advice in the first place when all you are going to do is criticise people. These web sites are made for people to air there feelings and let off steam, if you have nothing positive to offer then don't bother replying!

Answer 2

That is a very exhausting part of your pregnancy. Your body is busy building a little one! When you can, get as much rest and sleep as possible. Spend time one on one with your husband. See if he'll take a few chores--maybe provide dinner a few times a week. If possible, look for a job without the 3 hour transport--it will be much harder once the baby is here. Good luck!

Answer 3

It is normal to have miserable bouts when you are pregnant. Just try to make things easier for yourself, make easy meals do only as much housework as is necesary and spend one hour a day enjoying yourself even if its only a hot bath or feet up with a good book, If no one else sees you as important then do it yourself. When you are travelling do something nice if you are on the train then read or knit or listen to music (just elbow them out of the way or wear a badge saying be nice to me i,m pregnant), if you are driving try some calming music or a relaxation tape.
Do make sure you have enough iron that can make you tired.

Answer 4

Don't worry...these feelings are normal. Being pregnant plays havoc with your hormones. You might even feel like you hate your husband sometimes.
Your husband will never understand you. Most men just think... carrying a baby is a piece of cake...so why is she making a fuss?Hopefully, he will be more helpful once the baby arrives.
Sometimes, by the time you get to 6 months, your moods may subside. As the time gets nearer, you could find yourself on a kind of 'high'
Good luck.

Answer 5

Has your job schedule changed or is it the same routine prior to pregnancy? Remember you are both pregnant and yes he will go through changes to. Believe it or not some men actualy do worry what life will be like after the baby is born. Both of you need time to adjust to this and if you truely love each other it will all work out. Good luck! Try to remember you are pregnant not ill with a rare disease. Dont expect more out of your husband then you use to get and when he does do something special or extra thank him. I know it sucks that we have to treat men like babies sometimes but it is because their mom babied them. I love my son but I try hard to not baby him. Also you need to still try to be the sexy fun person he fell in love with not just a tired, grumpy pregnant person. Pregnancy is not fun all the time but dont lose yourself in it.

Answer 6

That sounds like a lot of things to do at 16 weeks. Can you work part time? Can your husband take care of you and the baby if you don't work? You body is changing and your hormones are going crazy. Mood changes are common when pregnant. You have to whit and after you have the baby you hormones will be normal. Well you can talk to a doc a tell him how you feel and they can give you facts on this.

Answer 7

Ok. You need to stop and make time for you.

Could you take some time out of work, get your Dr to sign you off sick with exhaustion and get some rest. Your employer can't terminate your employment while you are pregnant so you are well protected by employment legislation.

Could your husband help with caring for your Mum? Try and make life as simple as possible - keep cooking to a minimum.... and look after yourself.

Answer 8

No, that's not too much to ask for. Sit down and have a talk with your husband. You are pregnant and tired and he needs to help you out, you shouldn't have to come home and cook unless you feel like it. Let him know you would appreciate it if he helped out more, just so you can get a little bit of rest.

Answer 9

It is normal to feel a little stress while you are pregnant.When you are carring a child you (as a woman A.K.A princess)see the world with a new found conscience,this this conscience is not for you but for your child.things that you see now may have always been there.stress is only effective when you let it effect you.The pleasure in your life should not be given to negativity, unless you take pleasure in pain.THAT ALL ITS SOMTHING TO THINK ABOUT
P.S MAKE YOURSELF HAVE A NICE DAY.

Answer 10

In my first trimester, I went to bed by eight every night, when you are tired, rest! By the time you start your fifth month, you will actually have more energy and be less tired, so keep that in mind. For now, listen to your body..