My husband was "addicted" with pornography (his words) and had a crush on a woman at the office about a year ago. After I caught him and was flabbergasted since he has always been the picture of fidelity, I was so upset I had an epileptic seizure (1st in 3 yrs) which made me unable to drive for 6 mos, which made me have to close my personal training business. I was so upset about the whole thing. We reconciled and have been moving forward but he is not really interested in me or sex. He is on a business trip and asked me to join him at the end of the week. I have been totally depressed (and on meds) for over a yr. Just getting out of bed is nearly impossible. I simply cannot go. I am cancelling the trip primarily b/c I can't manage the energy, I look like hell (like someone who escaped the mental ward) & I am hurt, angry, depressed & disgusted with myself and him. I don't feel like having fun. I felt good crushing him about this trip. I know that's mean, but at I least I got him back.
2007-01-23 05:38:14 · 11 answers · asked by AM 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just a month ago, at his company's Xmas party, he was acting like a foaming idiot over the VP's admin. It was so embarassing, especially since we were there with our three children. I mean, save it for when I'm not there at least! How humiliating.
2007-01-23 05:39:28 · update #1
Honestly, if he wants to cheat on me, I would just rather him do it but do it on his own time. Not go ga-ga over women if front of me. That is disrespectful.
2007-01-23 05:53:31 · update #2
THis totally sucks expecially since you have children to gether not 1 but 3 I was going to say well try and move out of the town from him and start over but....... since there is children involved. If you are not interested you should avoid all contact with him especially if hes not treating you right. The most contact you should have with him is his visitation rights to see his children. File for a divorce and stay away. He obviosley doesnt care that you lost your job and the fact that because of this stress you had a seizure! this man is noooo good. You need to get your life back on track. Take a stand and show whose boss. Go to the salon get your hair done, get some councilling and surround yourself with positive energy. Maybe even join a church group thats always the best thing to do when your in a crisis situation. Surround your self with positive people and eventually you will heal emotionally, spiritiualy, physically and move on with your life. You can do this and your worth so much more. Show everyone who let you down that your not going to let them win, your going to show them that your better then that, your stronger. Soon you will look back and thank your husband for making you a stronger person, you will learn from your mistake of ever thinking he was right for you, for letting him walk over you and make you feel the way you felt and you will learn from that. You will become a better person from that. Time heals everything even the body and soul.
Best of wishes, kesha
2007-01-23 06:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also suffuring for depression.. Although i have never had anything like that happen to me... Revenge is really not the way to do it.. You should leave him or stand up to him tell him how you feel and let him know that you have had enough...
Normally i take all my husbands crap and bite my tounge.. the other day for the first time in 5 years i stood up to him and told him i had had enough.. I felt so good.. So my suggestion is stand up to him and give him a choice.. You and him or on his own.. Stick to your guns..
As far as the depression goes.. Fight it or it will get worse..If it feels that the meds arent working try a new one.. There are so many out there something has to work..
Force yourself to get up in the morning, shower and go for a walk or go to the mall or park and watch other people if you surround yourself with happy people it really helps..
GL and if you need someone to talk to you can email me
broekgirl@yahoo.com
2007-01-23 05:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by broekgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something I've learned over the years is that holding onto a hurt or trying to get even makes me feel worse, and usually doesn't really affect the other person. Life is too short to let this go on. If you want to stay with him, why not try some marriage counseling? Try to use your energy in positive ways rather than negative. Good luck.
2007-01-23 05:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by TeriR 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you deserve better than this, it's amazing how someone can bring you down. He is obviously a total jerk who sounds like he either needs to grow up or just doesn't care about his family. You have got 3 kids who need a good, stable parent and I'm assumming it is never going to be him. Leave him, get on with your life, you and the kids deserve more, do you want to go on like this forever? With him, you will.
2007-01-23 06:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, u acting too jealous and over protective.
Men have it in their nature to do this stuff, it is only human.
Appreciate the good husband that u have or some other lady will
definely steal him from u.
U know statistics say there is 10 women for every man.
U are lucky u got a good hubby.
Be nice to him and overlook the foolishness.
U need some B12 vitamins to help ya out.
Wake up and tell yourself u are well and will look sexy and
keep your hubby happy.
U need a boost, think positive, eat an apple and get up
and moving. Life is too short to be this miserable.
If the meds are doing this , throw them away and get
some B vitamins, herbal meds.
http://www.herbs.com
2007-01-23 05:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
revenge is never a good answer to any problems. It sounds like he gets a kick out of coming on to women in front of you. maybe to see your reaction. if you let him continue on acting this way then he will. why stay with him if he is cheating on you anyways, don't let him make you feel the way you are feeling now. you are a much better person then to have to put up with such nonsense. don't let him tear you down like that. stand up for youself and find a better man. your worth it...
2007-01-23 06:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this but...he's only treating you this way because you allow him to. Do you honestly think that you ruined his trip? If he is interested in so many other women, I highly doubt that he even flinched. What you need to do is start taking care of yourself and your self-esteem. Otherwise he will keep treating you this way. You need to show him that you deserve more, and you won't do that if you keep moping around. Go get your nails, make-up and hair done, and show him what he has been neglecting.
2007-01-23 05:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-16 11:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of trying to get back at each other why don't you both try and start afresh.
Try talking to each other, listen to each other, no shouting, let each other finish talking, no butting in, write down how you both feel then you can start working things out.
Don't sit there and say you did this you did that you said this you said that as that wont solve anything
2007-01-23 06:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by tracey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not getting even; you are falling deeper and deeper into depression and self loathing. Divorce him. You dislike him intensely at this point. Save yourself. He is pulling you down.
2007-01-23 05:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋