We've been together for 2 years now and throughout the relationship I have had a gut feeling that they have been in contact more than what he has led on. I recently went through his phone records (i'm not proud of doing that, but a girl has to do what a girl has to do, right?) and found out that he was calling her from his cell phone during the day and talking from 5 to 40 mins at a time at least 6 times during a month. On the home phone he calls her at least once a month on his day off and speaks for about 25 mins. From what I can see it started near her birthday and their wedding anniversary date. He claims she calls him and he just returns the call to see what she wants, but why talk for so long? When I talk to him about this he gets upset and defensive. Is there some way I can approach this and him not get mad. He tells me he's tired of hearing about it and I should move on from the subject. Is there any questions I should ask him about this?
2007-01-23 05:35:22 · 5 answers · asked by hnb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These two people have nothing attaching them together like kids for example. So what do they need to talk about?
2007-01-23 05:40:54 · update #1
Oh! I almost forgot, they have also exchanged email address. He says, she wants to email pics of her new house and the dogs. He assures me nothing is going on. Would it be wrong of me to ask if I could read his emails, to see if they have been contacting each other that way?
2007-01-23 08:33:35 · update #2
If you don't like it, leave him. Do you need a seperate brain to figure that out?
2007-01-23 05:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried about him being mad and ask him what is going on. He may be hiding something. Then do not pressure him as you may run him off and just let him work out his own problems. She may be contacting him cause she is jealous that he have you and trying to break up your relationship.
2007-01-23 13:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all...girl u need to put a block on the house phone..yeah u should turn it around and say if u were him and he was in your position would he get mad? then ask him y they talk so long if its about nothing...they could be planning to get back together...u never can be too sure...check ya man!!!
2007-01-23 13:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by lyssa a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to be ready for the big let down IMO. Go ahead and start looking around for a new guy, this one's got second thoughts about his divorce.
2007-01-23 13:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by magicman116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously still communicating with his ex and that shows that there is some sort of ongoing relationship. Do you need to have obvious proof?? C'mon this dude is doing you a disservice and he wouldn't want you carrying on like this with one of your exes. Dump him!!! Stop letting him treat you this way.
2007-01-23 13:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋