I met him in the community. He said that he wasn't happy with his wife. He eventually left her and we continued to see one another. We live near her. He sees her almost every day because they have two kids. He also pays for her morgage, over $2000, as well as her car note and her car insurance. He says that he does not want to get back together with her but I am having problems with this. Am I wrong?
2007-01-23 05:30:25 · 12 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He is permanently tied to his wife through his children. Their relationship will continue regardless of which other woman he is with. It is has nothing to do with them getting back together. If you can't deal with this type of relationship find someone without children. Also, remember that if you have a child with someone you are permanently tied to them even if you divorce. This is a general truism but there are certainly some variations depending on the people involved. Are you willing to just settle or do you want to keep looking for the right situation that doesn't cause you heartache?
2007-01-23 05:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Larry62 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she might have the goods on your boyfriend.
If he stops paying, then she goes to the cops (or whoever) and spills the beans.
Also, you say 'wife' not 'ex-wife'. If they are still married, then he knows that she will get the house, the car, and child support too if he pisses her off and they get a divorce.
All of that said, dude has enough cash to pay a $2000 mortgage, a car payment and insurance, and apparently enough left over to survive on, he has an (ex)wife and a girlfriend (maybe more than one) that was probably part of the reason he split with his wife...
I don't really have any sympathy for him at all. I hope she does take him to the cleaners...
2007-01-23 05:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by superfunkmasta 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is difficult, especially when you are dealing with children. Many people feel that they dont want to disrupt their ex beacause it can be economically devastating. I think what ever the people decide to do is their business. If he can afford to take care of her you should allow him to make his decisions. It doesnt mean that he doesn't care about you. He cares enough to want to help her out and that makes him a good guy. Maybe too good but if it makes him feel better to help out this way, then he's not such a bad man. In the future if you two decide to make a commitment then you will be able to discuss his finances. Be kind, divorce is very complicated. and be patient. Good luck.
2007-01-23 05:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, the fact that he still sees his wife because of their kids, and also pays for the stuff that directly affects his kids I would say is a good thing. Why are you upset over it..are you wanting him to spend that money on you instead?
I would say that maybe you should dump him because he's married!
2007-01-23 05:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by photogrl262000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is still his wife. He is a good man to still want to take care of his obligations. I wouldn't dump him, as whenever and if ever the two of you ever get serious and do marry, you will not have to worry about him abandoning you either. When he gets his divorce, if he does, he will probably stop giving her so much money. He is feeling guilty for breaking up his family.
2007-01-23 05:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
YES. YOU are very wrong. You have no business getting involved with a married man. When he is divorced and paying regular child support, you can see him again. Until then, play fair, and go find a man that is unattached that will only care about you, tramp though you may be.
2007-01-23 05:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by just browsin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Think there is more to this story! Sounds like a Fish story if ya get my drift.I would be looking for another guy if I were you.He's going to be commited to her if he divorces which he don't sound like hes doing.for child support I mean who knows about the house and spose support.Keep looking~~~
2007-01-23 05:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he's using u like a mistress. If I were u I would dump him. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-01-23 05:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you sure are. Not your money, not your business. He has an obligation to his existing family (I am assuming he is not divorced yet). Did you not consider the baggage that came with him when you began seeing him?
2007-01-23 05:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. He has responsibilities and he needs to honor them. You can be mad when he does this after the divorce.
2007-01-23 05:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lyn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋