I met him in the community. He said that he wasn't happy with his wife. He eventually left her and we continued to see one another. We live near her. He sees her almost every day because they have two kids. He also pays for her morgage, over $2000, as well as her car note and her car insurance. He says that he does not want to get back together with her but I am having problems with this. Am I wrong?
2007-01-23 05:30:03 · 5 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're the one who decided to mess with a married man - now you're learning the consequences. Did you expect him to ditch his kids as well as his wife? Did you imagine he could walk away from a marriage without owing child support and alimony? His name is still on the house - you thought the bank would let him off the hook for the mortgage?
This is the life your man lives and will continue to live. Not what you pictured? Learn to live with it or break off the relationship. If you are going to break up do everyone a huge favor and do it before the divorce is final so he can go back to his wife if she'll still have him after leaving her for you.
Important life lesson: If a man tells you he's unhappy with his wife tell him he should get a divorce - and don't even think about messing with him until he's actually legally split from her. Think about how you'd feel if you had a husband and two kids and some girl decided it was OK to take him away from you. Think about how the kids would feel. You need to be more responsible in your actions.
I don't care how "unhappy" he might have been - you are a homewrecker.
2007-01-23 05:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need someone who could completely commit themselves to you and your needs. Everyone has a past though, if he has legal obligations then no. But if he did it to her he will do it to you. I you two continue to see each other she will always be involved no matter what she knows she still has him by the wallet where it hurt men the most!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-23 05:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Brookey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...is all that stuff in his name, or partly in his name? Maybe he is paying it because he doesn't want to ruin his credit. Maybe he knows his ex wouldn't pay it just to ruin his credit...you never know. Have you confronted him about why he is still paying for all of this? Or could it be that they had an agreement that he payed all of that instead of child support?
2007-01-23 05:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer620420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left her and they are not divorced its common for him to pay all this if his name is also on it. However, if they are divorced than maybe the alimony is for him to maintain her until she remarries. Find out with him and let him know that it bothers you and thaqt you dont understand why he is paying for everything..
2007-01-23 06:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by NENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. not wrong. Jump ship asap.
2007-01-23 05:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋