7 months ago, I discovered my bfriend was cheating on me which sucked since we were together for 8 years, I was pregnant and had a one y-o boy. He had a steady gfriend and according to him was in love. The minute I found out he completely changed. He would come home at 4 in the morning on week days and not come back at all on the weekends. I was crying 24/7. The more the time passed by the more he would treat me like crap. Sometimes he wanted sex and since I was still in love and hoping, I would give up. Then he'd leave me without a word and call her for hours on end because he felt guilty. I really felt lower than low. He moved out for a while. Then, didn't asked me, he just moved back. Today I realize I feel nothing for him, sometimes disgust and I'm not in love anymore. Without being vain I am a very attractive girl which makes him real insecure and he give me a hard time about it. Should I stay with him for my kids sake and mess around for personal revenge or leave him altogether?
2007-01-23 05:23:53 · 15 answers · asked by Nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave his cheating a... divorce is better than a broken marriage.
2007-01-23 05:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Zarahel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, personal revenge will only sap all the rest of your energy. Let leaving him and finding your own happiness be your revenge. And as for your child, it doesn't even sound as if your boyfriend is being an ideal father, either. Don't put up with him at all, and just dump his sorry 4$$.
I'm so sorry you had to go through all the pain and suffering that you did. The sooner you move on, the sooner you can find peace--and who knows? Maybe you'll find a nicer guy.
So don't let this creep give you more white hairs. I'd suggest before you leave, however, you TELL him what he's done to you, and how you're not going to put up with his asinine behavior anymore. He needs to be put in his place, uh huh.
Good luck! Throwing away all that you had in 8 years, tsk tsk--he won't know what he's missing out on. Keep your head up and don't let jerks like that get you down :)
2007-01-23 05:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do would be to leave him altoghether. By staying with him you are just letting him think that what he did to you is okay and that you have forgiven him. There is no responsible excuse for being a cheater and I firmly believe that once a cheater will most likely always be a cheater. You and your kids deserve better and staying with him just for your kids is doing nothing but settling for 2nd best. Your kid(s) can probably sense that something is wrong in the relationship. Bottom line is that if he really loved you in the first place he would never have done that to you and disrespected you and your kids in anyway. Tell him that you feel nothing anymore, don't love him and hold your head up high and leave.
2007-01-23 05:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes1981_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good person, as well as good looking and make yourself happy. Getting back at him will do nothing and staying with him for your child's sake will not be profitable in the long run. I think this guy should not be in your life and I wonder if he should be in your child's. Be strong and stand up to him and move on. While you share the child together, it doesn't mean you have to share anything else. There is a whole world out there waiting on you!
2007-01-23 05:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just cut my losses now & leave him for good. You feel nothing for him, so it won't be as hard as what it would have been when it all started. It can't be good for the kids to grow up seeing this kind of relationship, because that's what they'll think is normal. Would you want your son treating someone like that? Or for your daughter (if you have one) to allow herself to be treated like that? If that's what they see happen between their parents then it's more likely that they might follow suit. Get out now while you feel nothing. You'll feel so much better in the long run, & maybe you'll find someone to treat you with the respect you deserve. It's what's best for you & what's best for your kids...
2007-01-23 05:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by kyls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could turn into a very bad situation if you stay with him. Move but try to keep things civil for the kids' sake. Good luck!
2007-01-23 05:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Whirled Peas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. No point in the whole revenge thing. You could find yourself in a worse situation than you have now. Keep your pride and respectability and leave and don't look back.
2007-01-23 05:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once more with feeling: LEAVE HIM!!
You deserve better! I know it will hurt and you will feel lonely sometimes, but you need someone of your very own. You deserve real love from someone who loves you. Even by just writing this, you know the answer! You can do it.
2007-01-23 05:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by one in ninety-nine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO don't stoop to his level. Cut all ties and kick him out and then file for support through the state. The money being garnished from his check will be enough vengeance!
2007-01-23 05:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST, see a lawyer and make SURE you set up child support payments and visitation rules. Then, hell yes, get rid of him. Welcome back to the real world where there are truly great guys who won't cheat and will put you back on the pedastal you deserve!
2007-01-23 05:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋