Me and this guy have known each for at least three years. The first year I ignored him thinking he was just another dude trying to get some, the second year he dated my friend which I kinda forced him to do, now however we've gotten past that and that and are closer than ever but we're still not in a relationship. He gives me oral sex on almost a daily basis wanting nothing in return, he is the sweetest most giving, funny, intelligent person I've met who doesn't care what people think about him which attracts me moreso. He says he loves me constantly, that I'm beautiful, that he'd do anything for me and so forth but thinks that he isn't worthy enough to be in a relationship with me because he still has female friends and is flirtaous, etc, and continues to say not yet to a relationship although I don't push the subject. He visits me and constantly calls me, even came to my house to help me clean so I could spend time with him. I need advice. HELP!!!!
2007-01-23 05:16:04 · 12 answers · asked by choatic_angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By forced him to go into a relationship with my friend I mean I literally forced him, me and my sister called him because my 'friend' ( who is a hoe) had been lying and I chose her word over his. In their 'relationship' all he talked about was me(she told me everyday) they brokeup two weeks into the relationship(she cheated(she admitted it to both of us) I ignored him for months, he called from a new number we started basically from scratch, he brings up being in a relationship with me as though its a question as to whether I want one with him (i'm a commitment phob), he says that he wants to get himself together before he gets into a relationship with me. He introduced me to his family a year ago, I just introduced him to mine a week ago and he already calls my mom; mother, my friends and family got involved in my business(I am a private person).insecurities I have with trying to please them n it seems like its bothering his concious is what brought around this question.
2007-01-24 04:48:36 · update #1
Obviously he is telling the truth (which is MUCH better than a liar), but the truth hurts a little. He is apparently not ready to settle down with one girl for some reason. He doesn't have much faith in himself and feels if you did start a relationship with him he would hurt you. OR it could be he just wants to "get some" with no strings attached. I say don't let him play with your mind. Let it go and if he comes back (no matter how long it takes) and truly wants a committed relationship then you will know his intentions are true. But right now things are unclear and you need to step back and do whats best for yourself.
2007-01-23 05:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by karoline h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, First of all you should always follow your first instinct. You thought he was trying to just get in where he fit in. Maybe your right. Sometimes really that's all guys want so they'll do anything to get it. If that means doing things that you think he only does to you then they'll do it.Guys sometimes are very tricky and you have to figure them out before they figure you out. Most guys especially young age are not ready for commitment so he's proabably doing you a favor. It seems he cares enough to be honest with you and say he not feelin a relationship so there your answer.
2007-01-23 13:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by tee-tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not "giving you oral" as a favor to you. He's getting off on you. I'd be sweet and kind to a hottie who'd give me a chance to nest between her thighs anytime I wanted. You're dumb enough to let this guy use you because he's saying and doing all the things you want. That's the perfect set up for a player. That's what I want. Do you have a sister?
2007-01-23 13:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you because you let him give you oral sex. Flat out. I mean this type of guy wants a relationship with the one person who won't give it up so easily to him. It's probably easy for him to approach women and sweet talk them,,,,,,,but what he is really after is the woman who respects herself way too much to involve herself with someone who has had everyone already.
2007-01-23 13:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a guy who likes to sleep around and is telling you whats up, cause he does not want to hurt you. As for the Oral sex every night Girlfriend don't look a gift horse in the mouth. I hate to sound rude but, laugh at all his funny jokes. Engage in his intelligent conversation.Enjoy his giving nature, and part your thighs and let his munch as often as he wishes . You go girl most women would kill to be in your shoes.
2007-01-23 13:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you are young and confused. I would never date a man a friend of mines dated. did you push him on her and decided after seeing how good he was u wanted him for yourself. yeah the first year is always good but hold up after a year and see if he changes. i guess he had the best of both friends. Have you ever thought that maybe your friend has told him alot about you and he knows what you like and want because of her?
2007-01-23 13:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's gonna be "Undecided".Then youhave to decide for him. Try to move to "Respect Land". Where Love is only given, when it's mixed with Respect and Honesty
2007-01-23 13:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dont want to be in a serius relationship with you probably he is nice with the other girls too.....please dont fall in love âºâ»
2007-01-23 13:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could ask your friends for another opinion about him or you could dump him and just keep him for the oral;)
2007-01-23 13:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Cool_Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he want to have his cake and eat it too .. literally ... he doing all this because he can ... your letting him ... why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free ... you are living testimony of all the cliches' that momma used to tell us growing up ... leave him alone because he does not want you ... hes only making excuses ...
2007-01-23 13:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋