Im getting married in august and im totally baffled on what to do...We are planning on getting married at the courthouse (on the lawn) and have a small iniment wedding. We were planning on having a lot of people at the wedding..but that has changed and we want a small one....what should we do about the people who wanted to come??? with us being low on money we both understand a big wedding is not in the plans anymore..all we wanna do it get married with the most important people! Is that so wrong? any ideas on what to do anyone!?
2007-01-23 05:06:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i was having the same ordeal. limit the amount of invitations to the ceremony and everyone at the reception. relook at your budget and inventory of what is needed and what you have. my wedding party and family was nice to help by buyin some decorations and any other little things needed for the wedding. decorations r a lot cheaper at a dollar store. because u only use it the once. cheaper to pay a dollar rather then goin to walmart or any other store and pay $5-7. even ask around to your family and friends to borrow things like table clothes, candles, flowers or whatever. hope this helps you
2007-01-23 05:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by meganthorne81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "easy" button when you come to the point of a wedding and there isn't room or resources for everyone that is feasible. Your parents will probably tell you you can't invite aunt Irene without uncle Ollie and so-on. You have two options the way I see it, either invite the people who have been involved in your life in a meaningful way and have the intimate wedding you desire or simplify until it becomes affordable. I know this sounds crass or even tacky, but more people means more opportunities for money to be given. If anything, some of those outlying relatives you read about in Christmas cards and see in old photo albums might open the purse strings a little. But the main rule in a wedding is make it yours. You'll be just as married no matter who shows up.
2007-01-23 13:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by RB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps someone could throw you two a "Getting Married" party for those who won't be invited to the wedding. I am sure they will understand if you guys want a small wedding. Especially if money is the reason. People should respect your wish for a small wedding. After all it is your day. So that is an idea. And then just invite those you want to the wedding.
Congrats!
2007-01-23 13:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by CGS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation, and I was told (and later figured out) that it is YOUR wedding, and it is what YOU want to do. We held our reception for 50 in my parents backyard, and only invited close friends and family. We both had family members not be invited, but we didn't have a lot of money either. We had a Hawaiian themed wedding, and roasted a pig and had people bring dishes to pass. Although it was very different than the traditional wedding/reception, we were told it was one of the nicest reception's that people had been too. You are never going to make everyone happy, so do what you like!
2007-01-23 13:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by fries823 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that you have scaled down the ceremony and will only be about to invite a few. After the ceremony, you can through a celebration/reception so that all can honor you and partake of your happiness. The reception can be right after the ceremony or it can a few weeks later if you can't do it the same day or if you are going away for a honeymoon. Just tell people the truth and don't feel bad about what you can't do.
2007-01-23 13:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask some of your closest friends to help you plan a reception
sometime after your wedding...this will make them feel
included in your celebration without hurting any feelings.
Since this is in the summer and depending on where you
live, you could have it at the beach where people could
have fun playing volleyball or swimming, or at a park where
you could grill great hamburgers, throw frizbees and perhaps
have someone you know volunteer to sing, play guitar,
etc. This could be a lot of fun and not strain the budget.
2007-01-23 13:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a celebration party the weekend after the wedding, either at your place, or perhaps find a friend who would volunteer their house. Have a BBQ, make it a pot-luck or a BYOBooze party, this way everyone can come and celebrate. It'll cost much less than a regular reception.
2007-01-23 13:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to tell everyone that you are having a small wedding only with family members. Tell the truth... You want to save money for the future
2007-01-23 13:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by You 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just did that girlfriend, all you do is tell em the truth....we have down sized because of budget reasons....getting way into debt is not a great plus to starting a marriage...listen, if they don't unerstand they are not your friends....it is your day and anyone who is the least bit understanding will want you to do it your way, it is all about you this time....don't worry, they will get over it....good luck...sounds lovely...
p.s....there are 2 things I spent some money on (othere than clothes)....a good photographer, don't scrimp there, and get some nice flowers.....have fun....relax...it'll be okay...!!!
2007-01-23 13:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would invite the important people to the actual ceremony. Maybe think about doing like a pot luck type reception so you can atleast invite everybody to the reception w/o having to spend a whole bunch of money. You can cater it yourself no problem.
2007-01-23 13:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Candi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋