my girlfriend who i have been dating for 3 months has moved to another country to study there and now she wants to have a long distance relationship, she only comes back every 4 months and stays here for a week or two, since she has been there she has changed i feel like i'm going out with someone i didnt get to know what should i do?
2007-01-23 05:03:06 · 17 answers · asked by tiny g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her space to figure things out and she will come back if she wants.
2007-01-23 05:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By long distance relationship does she mean she wants a free place to stay and someone to sleep with when she comes home? Does long distance relationship mean monogamy and seeing no one else while apart? Either way, determine what it is you want and need, tell her clearly and go from there. After years of relationship(s) and always trying to make the other person happy, I have FINALLY discovered that I should have been making me happy all along. Do what YOU feel is right.
2007-01-23 13:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to understand, honesty would be the best policy in this matter.
My response would be,"I really am glad that we had the time to get to know each other, but I think it would be better if we were honest with ourselves and admit we still have some growing to do. You are away at school and I am here. I am not interested in pursuing a long distance relationship at this time, but I am not saying that I do not value your friendship. That is exactly why I am explaining this to you. I would much rather be a good person and friend and be honest with you, than lie and hurt your feelings later. I hope you understand.
2007-01-23 13:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she is ready for a long dist. relation but then u say she has changed. Hm.. depends on what has changed? Long dist, relations need a lot of patience and trust to keep it going. Also u both need to keep communicating as often as possible. Try to be there for her in anyway possible. Ask her what's going on in her day to day life....ask her if she needs any help, tell her u r there for her etc. Don't do all the initiating. Let her also initiate, so u know she is equally interested. Gauge whether it seems mutual? U r the best judge. All the best! Stay connected with her. Don't lose hope just yet.
2007-01-23 13:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationship needs plenty of efforts from the two of you to really make it work.LDR becomes weak if you dont get enough support from your gf.I was in a long distance relationship,things were really fine until my ex bf moved to another state.I saw drastic change in his personality since he moved there.He became a different person that neglected me a lot.Yet,i spontaneously put in plenty of efforts to make him stay in a relationship with me.But it didnt work out the way i expected.I had to let him go and move on with life.
If you can relate with me in this case,you need to seriously reconsider the fate of your relationship with her.Get to the bottom of the issue and have a discussion with her regarding any efforts or share to keep this relationship alive.If her words or actions doesnt agree or support you,i suggest you to let her go and move on.Bcoz this is the ultimate favour you can do for yourself and save a lot of grief.
2007-01-23 13:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and let her know exactly how you feel. Maybe she feels the same way but doesn't know how to approach the subject either. It's got to be tough on both of you.
Some people can make long distant relationship's work, but not many...maybe it's time to move on. At any rate, talking it out and being completely honest is the first step in the right direction.
Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-23 13:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i u feel u re going out with someone u didnt know and that she has changed, tell her what u think and feel .. see how things go through,even than if u still feel its not what u wont say that! why drag ur self for something u dont wont?
2007-01-23 13:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't last. You only dated for 90 days and she left the country. Move on.
2007-01-23 13:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not being comfy with the one youre supposed to care deeply for is a bad feeling. she is at a differnt place in her life - literally and probably mentally. i'd say end it on good terms - she'll probably agree- and stay in touch with her. when she comes back, maybe you can remain friends and if it was meant to be, something will spark up again.
2007-01-23 13:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. You are most likely too young to be tied down to someone you don't even get to see. If it is meant to be you can get back togehter when she gets back. I broke up and didnt see or talk to him for two years. We ended up getting back together and have been married for 15 years. Trust me don't waste your precious young years waiting for someone-if it is meant to be it will be.
2007-01-23 13:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋