My brother is only 21 years old and his girlfriend constantly talks about wanting to have kids. Well my brother is smart and wants to finish college first and get a job and get married. She is 1 month pregnant, and her roommate told my brother that she stopped taking her birth control in October to get pregnant.
Does he have to pay child support or can he sign away his rights? She wants to have it but why is it the woman's choice to have an abortion or not he should have a say in it. My whole family is so pissed
2007-01-23 04:52:01 · 26 answers · asked by jrawls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
same thing happened to my husband 17 yrs ago, now we pay for the 16 yr old and have no contact, have never met her, couldn't even get pictures until 2 yrs ago.
your brother is along for the ride of his lifetime now, he no longer has any rights. that is the world we live in. tough luck for your bro, my sympathy is extended to your family.
I think women whom try to entrap men should have their tubes tied and there babies giving up for adoption, how awful to use a child as a tool, they should be born to TWO consenting adults.
teach him to always use precautions, abstain, condoms, vasectomy....
2007-01-23 06:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother can sign away his rights, and basically he is not the child's father in the eye of the law.
How will this affect the inncoent child though? It is not fair to punish the child because the parents chose to have sex before marriage. Your brother is not totally innocent, as I'm sure you know. Do the child's mother's hopes and dreams not matter now? You talked about your brother wanting to finish college, get a job, etc - what about the mother? There are too many fatherless children in this world. Please talk to your brother about being mature and taking responsibility for his actions. It takes two to make a baby - birth control or not. He could have used a condom. Don't let this baby become a statistic!
2007-01-23 05:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by LG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your brother was that determined to not have kids he should have used a condom for starters. Even when women do take their birth control, certain things like antibiotics and other medications can render birth control useless.
Sure he can probably sign away his rights. Someday that baby will be an adult and be completely emotionally unraveled when he or she realizes that they weren't good enough to have their father in their lives...So what if he didn't get to finish college first? Does that mean that the baby has to suffer?? Kids don't ask to be brought into this world so why are people so selfish when it comes to being responsible for them?
If your brother is that self-centered about the baby then I guess it is better for the child to not know him anyway.
2007-01-23 05:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First at 21 he is old enough to know better than to have unprotected sex. Now there are no good choices. Yes unfortunately even though he was not involved in the decision to make a baby he is responsible for paying for it at least until it is 18 if not longer. Unless she lets him walk away with no obligations which I doubt she will. She gets to make the decision because it is her body. Its not the baby's fault the mother is an idiot. I do hope he doesn't compound the problem by getting married if he is not in love with her. Big mistake and it won't last or if it does he will more than likely be miserable. He needs to finish college. Also before he pays child support he may consider a DNA test just to make sure it's his child. If she was dishonest enough to get pregnant on purpose she may be dishonest in other ways. I hope things work out for your brother and please keep in mind no matter how the baby got here or how difficult things get babies or a gift from God.
2007-01-23 05:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by britches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold up!!!! It takes two people to make a baby. Is there some reason that your brother couldn't have used birth control also. He helped to create this child regardless of his intent. He will always have to be financially responsible for HIS child.
Your family needs to get over being pissed, whats done is done. The next step is for your brother (not you or your family) to talk to his girlfriend and plan what they are going to do. He is a big boy and needs to figure this one out without interference from you and your pissed off family. He may not be telling you the entire story either, because you would be pissed.
2007-01-23 05:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly the shitt that I warn people about constantly. Conniving women are commonplace. You can't let your guard down even momentarily because that is when they will make their move to ***** you over. What is this shitt about an abortion. Your brother ******* up because he could not keep a leash on his dick or much less wear a condom. Killing someone will not eradicate the problem. Your brother deserves no less than what he has coming because if he is smart as you claim he is, he would have enough sense to figure that his dick might seek pleasure and to keep that exclusive. .
2007-01-23 09:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's so smart, then he should have seen this one coming. I'm sorry, but it really irritates me when people claim, "so and so is very smart" and yet they make poor life choices. I would be more concerned about my brother acting like a man and taking responsibility for his actions. He was out screwing around and he made a kid. (after he has the genetic testing done to make sure it really is his kid) I would encourage him to get to know his child, be a good father, continue with his education to be a good example, and to also help pay for his child's life. For your whole family to want to get rid of the kid, and wipe your brother's slate clean is in reality, NOT teaching him any good life's lessons other than if he didn't intend for a certain outcome, he ought to have the right to ignore it. BAD LESSON. This child is innocent, regardless of the girlfriend's manipulating ways....isn't there one person in your family worried about this kid being subjected to her manipulative and conniving ways for his or her entire life?
2007-01-23 05:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he should wear a raincoat and pull out!! or better yet, not have sex at all if he didnt want to have a kid! and yea he will have to pay child support if its his child! why sighn the rights off of the baby and take it out on the kid?? You say hes smart by finishing college, but i think he's a lowlife to sighn off his own child! i have sen many pl go through school and have a kid, and hes tha dad so that makes it even easier then if he was the mom!! tell him he's and adult now, GROW UP!
2007-01-23 05:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it take TWO to get pregnant. He should of used a condom. This is not your problem. If he wants to finish school he still can. Im a mom of two and still attend school. You and your family need to get a life. If you got pregnant and wanted tp keep the baby and the man said no you have to get an abortion how would you feel. It is all the womans choise for a number of reasons...
1- most men are a**holes and run
2-want to f**k and not pay
3-do not have to deal with the emotional problems of killing the baby
4-do not have to deal with the health problems caused from abortion.
The question is what does your brother want... Do he want her and the baby. If he do than get out of it. If he dont than he should not have f**ked her. If he that smart he would have understood that one from the begging. Yes he will still have to help wiht the kid. Its called being grown smart and responsible. DUH
2007-01-23 05:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by lady bug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off you don't know if she stopped taking the pill or not . i am 6 weeks along with my boyfriend's baby and we used to pill. nothing is 100%. second your brother is not that smart or he would have used a condom. Secondly what kinda person signs away their child. secondly does your family know that it is a child that will be born and not and issue. so tell your brother to man up. it took two. i am so Glad that my bf is not like your brother.
2007-01-23 05:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋