Boyfriend has neice. Neice is jealous because he used to spend lots of time with her. Now got me so he can't. She says she hates me and is telling him to chose between us. Should I get involved or keep gob shut and how should boyfriend handle it? Neice is seventeen.
2007-01-23 04:45:35 · 9 answers · asked by TEE S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I mean, I've tried to involve her and be nice to her and invite her to hang out with us together and we got told to get lost, so it's not like he abandoned her or anything.
2007-01-23 04:58:43 · update #1
Not sure why she is jealous when has boyfriend of her own. My Boyfriend wants to be careful what he says, because neice has been harming herself and he's scared she'll top herself he gives her grief for being mean to me. She has been ill, but I don't feel that excuses her behaviour.
2007-01-24 02:27:03 · update #2
You might make it worse if you get involved. Make it clear to him that you want to be with him, and be as nice to her as possible when she is around, and don't engage in arguments. In the end, he will have to decide what he wants to do, but adults shouldn't make decisions based on a teenager's tantrum.
2007-01-23 04:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi when i was first reading your question i thought you were going to say his niece was like 10 or something but 17 years off age, maybe she need some sort of pherapy as this is not normal 17 year old behaviour. Its like my fiancees cousin she did the same to me but she was only like 13 at the time and she was slagging me off behind my back so i confronted her and now i dont speak to her and its a much easier life. I could understand if she was about 6-7 as my cousin did this to me when her niece was born she use to take me every where and then it just stopped when her niece was born and i got left out. But as she is 17 i dont see why you can set her straight, obviously he old enought to have a decent relationship with you and she should understand that. If them to are close then maybe it has hurt her a little but acting like a spoilt little 13 year old doesnt help. I dont know how close they where and how long they have knocked around together for but surely she has other friends she could hang with. She probably doesnt care much about not spending time with her uncle, she just dislikes you which was the same for my fiancee cousin. Just talk to her and say you and her uncle are in a relationship and he tells you everything and you dont appreciate her saying that she hates you as she doesnt even know you, also you can tell her you aint happy for her telling him to chose and to get into her head you and him arent going to split up so she will have to deal with it. Then i would ask your boyfriend if he wants to spend time with her and if he does then arange a day for them to see each other but there is no need for you not to go along as you are a couple and this is what he needs to tell her. That if she wants to see him then you all can go together and if she doesnt then she is obviously not to bothered about spending time with him Also tell her to grow up.
2007-01-23 06:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His niece is too old to act like that. I would stay out of it and let your boyfriend handle it. He needs to talk to her and let her know that he is still there for her. He shouldn't abandon family just because he gets in a relationship. Bring her along when you do things together. Try to build a relationship with her.
2007-01-23 04:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Babydoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should talk this through with your boyfriend (if you haven't already done so) and he and you can talk to his niece and explain to her that nothing has really changed and that he'll always be her uncle and he'll still spend some time with her. The other alternative is to leave her to it and let her get used to you in her own time.
2007-01-24 01:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by firegirl999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me that at 17 she would be jealous. I could understand maybe the 6 to 10 range, but 17? It sounds like maybe you should just kind of stay quiet and watch. You might find something you don't like. Watch out for yourself.
2007-01-23 04:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by ericpaulette2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Niece is acting like a spoiled child, Keep your gob shut. If your boyfriend doesn't handle it, dump him.
2007-01-23 05:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to grow up, and your boyfriend should have your back and stick up for you when she talks crap about you. He needs to grow some balls and not be her little b1tch..if not find a new man.
2007-01-23 05:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by jrawls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his niece fancies him ,he should tell her off about being horrible to you ,if he doesnt stick up for you he isnt worth it .
2007-01-24 01:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a crush on her uncle tell you b/f this and let him sort it or you will end up without him
2007-01-23 12:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋