Maid of honor/best man's signifgant other being invited to wedding?

Question

Your best friend is going to be your maid of honor. However, you don't know her fiance all THAT well.. but you know it would mean alot to her if he was there, regardless of the fact that it is YOUR wedding. I'd like to have him there, but would you invite him to the wedding, and if so, how? Thanks

I know how I'd invite him, I guess my question was more, where would I seat him? Would it be wrong to have him sitting in normal seating with my best friend at the head table? Should I just seat hmi with people he knows, but by himself?

No he's not bi or gay, what the hell?

I meant that either males or females could answer, since the same would go with inviting a best man's fiancee to the wedding as well as the maid of honors fiance.

Answer 1

I don't personally like head tables, for this exact reason. Have you thought about doing a Sweetheart table, so that you and your husband can sit together (just the 2 of you) and the rest of your bridal party can sit with their significant others?

If not, of course it is fine to seat him at a regular table. If you'd like to seat him at the head table with her, they would probably both appreciate it.

In the end, they will only be sitting there for an hour or so for dinner - then they will be dancing & mingling anyway, so its not a huge deal if they don't sit at the same table.

Answer 2

Absolutely I would. If she is your best friend, and they are engaged (you said her fiance), then you should absolutely invite him. He is, and should already be, a big part of her life!

If you don't know him THAT well, maybe you should make the effort... suggest a double date when the four of you (including your fiance) can sit down for a few hours and get to know him better.

If it is a matter of where to seat him, try to sit him where he will be comfortable. I would try to put at least one person in the same age range at the table. Even if they are part of couples, most people are pretty friendly and will try to make conversation.

If any of the rest of the wedding party has a date, you could seat them all together.

Answer 3

Your question is confusing? If your maid of honor has a boyfriend by all means if she wants him there he should be included. I can't even think of why he wouldn't be as most all guests are invited as a couple or w/ guest. Think of it this way, would you invite a good friend that wasn't involved with someone without the invite reading "and guest"?

Your question reads "Maid of honor/best man's signifgant other being invited to wedding?" What do you mean by "best mans significant other" or does that mean your future hubby is/was bi/gay?

Answer 4

I would expect that your maid of honor would bring along as escort, so hence her finance should be included, even if that means inviting him. Seating at the head table should include your maid of honors escort! She is his date and dates usually sit side by side. And the same would hold true for the Best Man and his date.

Congratulations. Enjoy the fun of setting up the wedding.

Answer 5

I would seat him at the closest possible table to the head table. Do any of the rest of the wedding party have guests? Seat them all together, close to the head table so they can get together and talk without disrupting the rest of the hall.

Also, you don't invite him because "it would a lot to her if he was there", you invite him because they are engaged and therefore together and invited as such. He would not be her guest, you do not invite "Miss Jane Doe & Guest." He should be included. Address the outside invitation to her alone, the inside envelope to her and him; ie "Miss Jane Doe" and "Miss Jane Doe and Mr John Smith"

Answer 6

I had the same situation, the fiance just sat in the normal seating it didn't really bother him that much, he made alot of new friends :) It will end up working just fine and he will be happy to know he was invited to the wedding. I agree with how to address the envelope to both of them...that is exactly how I did it as well. Good luck!

Answer 7

If money is not an issue than invite him and sit him at a table where you can fit him. You will send the invitation to your MOH and address the inside envelope with her name and the name of her fiance. Allow her to explain to him that she will be seated at the head table and he would sit at another table!!! Its really not a big deal beacuse after the reception activites and the dijnner is served and the ddance floor is open she will be in hhis arms and you will be in your husbands!!!

Answer 8

I DJ weddings and I see it all the time. People have fiances' and husbands and wives that get invited and they sit out in the regular seating all the time. Its not a bad thing to just sit him out with people in the crowd and have your best friend by your side. Who cares. Its your wedding. Invite who you want too, and enjoy your day. Im sure to her, just his presence will make her happy anyways.

Answer 9

Invited their fiances and just sit them with people they know for dinner. The head table is usually reserved for the wedding party.

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with seating him at a regular table. After all, she is in the wedding party, he is not. If he knows other people there then seating him with them is a good idea.