How can I make a girl go out with me and not lose her as a friend?

Question

I'm very fond of this girl,and I really want to date her(now she's meeting another guy,but there is still nothing between them).I meet her almost every day at the university and we're talking еаch other a lot about various subjects(personal stuff too) and having a lot of fun together.I mean I can call her a friend of mine,although I know her slightly(since few months)and I don't want to loose her friendship...I just don't know what to do!I'm thinking about her all the time and I'm really confused...sometimes I'm trying just to forget about her,but It's impossible,because she's calling me,or I'm meeting her(almost)every day...I fear,if I ask her to date me,I'm going to loose her as a friend and I'd like to keep her friendship, because she's a great person and she's really nice to me.What do you think I have to do?

Answer 1

Hello,
Now then, come on, what you have here with your query is the perfect opportunity to become Soul-mates, and yes, soulmates can fall in love and stay that way forever, knowing each others ups and downs, and their moods as well, it happened to me and I ended up married to my soul mate, whom I thought was totally unapproachable all of those 42 years ago, well she wasn't, and she told me so, I was to listen to all sorts of stories about why shew was waiting for me, while I was torn apart by her going out on dates witha coupe of different fellers, she had no bloody interest in, at all..
What you need to do to get this thing off the ground is check her out face to face about what she likes to do when she is out with these other fellers, and ask her is she bored while she is with them, if she says something like its alwats the same ol' same ol' Then this is your chance to take the initiative, and tell her you bet she could have a better time out with you, you are not doing anything tomorrow nite are you??? and she probably isn't either, so why don't you do it together, and choose your topics of conversation well
No good talking about the weather when you are running for cover in the rain, ar being sat there in a heatwave wiping sweat from your face... wipe it gently from hers, let her wipe yours, rain or sweat, you will both end up with dry faces, and samiles on your face, if yours is close enough to her face, let her kiss your face, and kiss her straight back again, that's it, your are off, so walk be fore you run, and tell her just how long it is since you wanted to do that, there you go,, and there you are, already in love, it won't take long before she tells you she has always wanted you to do now what you are doin, and " I Love You" is not too far in the future, good luck, and I know some really funny wedding speeches for a best man, I have been a best man a few times.... have fun Tony M

Answer 2

well if u ask her on a date, and she says no, it doesnt automatically mean ur going to loose her friendship. if u have feelings for her you should get some sort of signals in return, there is no harm in being straight with her: look, i like you and would like to get to know you on a bit more than friends scale, i see you as a good friend and dont want to loose you if you dont fancy the same thing, thats fine i just wanted to let you know...
her answer will either be i feel the same - and bobs your uncle! or it will be along the lines of im flattered but i likethings the way they are... see - no big disasters!!

Answer 3

Pose this question to her. Ask her if she feels your relationship can go beyond friendship.(get past your fear, you can do this)

If she says no, then you must be prepared to remain her friend. Friendship is always the bridge to a romantic relationship, but if she says no, then you should remain her friend (if you can) without any other motive other than to be a friend.
If she says she doesn't know, it's too soon, or otherwise--thank her for her honesty and remain friends.

Answer 4

A) Ask her out and if she says no - tough luck. She wouldnt be the one acting awkward. you would - but if you're ok with the "NO" then you'll continue to be friends, and forget whatever happened
B) Let the friendship grow, see where it goes. If it turns into something more serious, you'll have a friend and a girlfriend too

Answer 5

Well, how bout both getting absolutely plastered one night, splilling your guts and seeing how she reacts? It might be that she feels exactly the same but is waiting for you to bring it up. If she doesn't, tell her the next day you were so wasted you cannot remember a thing and was obviously talking crap! Worked for me and Ive now been with my man for nearly 4years!! Oh the power of alcohol!

Answer 6

I agree with MARCY, you can't make anyone go out with you or do anything they don't wish to.
A true friend of the opposite sex is a rarety I have found, may well be worth hanging onto her as things are at the moment. I doubt you & she would be that close if you had a failed romance with her

Answer 7

Sometimes relationships just develop from being really good friends. And they tend to be the strongest. As it has only been a few months - give it time. Soon she will be giving off signals and you need to be there to make sure you receive them!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Ask her! True friendships last. More often than not the best relationships that last start as good friends

Answer 9

Take the chance man, if you get burned just say you understand and that you would like to stay friends. It will be awkward for a little while probably but if she says yes its worth it

Answer 10

There is no guarantee that the friendship will remain. You need to decide if it's worth the risk