I have lived on my own (well with my boyfriend) for almost 3 years. We lived close to my parents and they always tried to run my life (tell me their opinion about EVERYTHING and expect me to do what they said or thought). I moved away (with my boyfriend) and it got better but now a year later we are moving back and my parents are trying to run my life again. What do I do? (example I told them we were getting a vehicle and they said that we couldn't afford it and it was a bad idea and haven't said anything since as they expect me to listen and not get one but my boyfriend won't be able to get home from work without one as bus doesn't run that late). Any suggestions?
2007-01-23 04:22:26 · 12 answers · asked by Nat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We are moving back because we miss being there. We love Nova Scotia so moving far away isn't an option. I want them to understand that I am all grown up and can take care of myself.
2007-01-23 04:31:14 · update #1
move
2007-01-23 04:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as most parents go, most of them do bother us with their statements of life and what we do. I have come to find my mother being more correct, more often then not,...especially when dealing with financial situations. Most arguments occur over financial stability and what we can afford or not afford. My suggestion would be for you to write out on paper how much this vehicle is going to cost, and then show your parents that your income can support this purchase. Include everything between making a down payment, monthly payments, car insurance, and even an estimate of a years worth of gas. Then you can prove to your parents that you are able to hold your own. They should back down some after that. They may worry that they will be the ones paying for this car, unless you prove otherwise.
2007-01-23 04:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Matt L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then act grown up, the next time they give their opinion, just say yeah, I hear you, then go and do what ever you want. As an adult you do not have to answer to your parents any more. Once they see that you have some back bone, they will eventually stop. You just make it so easy for them to run all over you.
2007-01-23 05:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not gonna happen. Especially not going to happen if you go back to where your parents live. Don't move there, unless you are prepared for this to continue.
My hubby solved the problem of my Mother doing the same. He always appeared to be listening, and agreed, then still did his own thing. Mom took that okay. She just wanted to be heard.
2007-01-23 05:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here are a few suggestions...first of all you are going to have to set the boundaries.
1. stop telling them everything. don't tell them anything. don't tell them when you are going to the store, dont' tell them what you plan to wear, don't tell them of your jobs or how much you make, don't tell them of your health, but keep it very vague. if they ask...keep the answers very vague.
2. if you have your own cell phone then good. just make sure that you don't answer it when they call. just tell them that you were busy. they don't have to know what you were doing...since you are an adult..it's really none of their business. and don't be afraid to tell them that. they still see you as their 'little girl' that's why they are treating you this way. you are going to have to stand up to them and make them see you as an adult.
3. if you have an email address...then i would suggest that you open another email addrss and use your second email address as your main email address and your current email address as an email address that you check every now and then. that way you will not have to be faced with your parents hounding you down all the time. don't tell them where you live. that only makes it worse. if they ask...then you will have to tell them. i am not a little girl anymore and i would appreciate it if you would treat me like an adult and give me more room.
2007-01-23 04:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 and my parents always puts their 2 cents in... Just something you have to deal with. They seem to just want whats best but dont know when to draw the line. I admit my parents don't seem to be as meddling but you just got to do what you need to do. Prove to them you can get a vehicle and in the future, you probalby need to distance yourself until your parents can see you can do things. OR maybe you can compromise and see if you can ask them what a good way to get a vehicle is etc...
2007-01-23 04:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 23:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are the same way I had to stop talking to them all together for at least a year and then when I had my son I told them that I have my own family and need to deal with that and dont need there advice on everything and they no longer speak to me but thats there choice and there missing out on there grandsons life.
2007-01-23 05:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grl plz take ur boyfriend and move as far away as possible.... and tell dem 2 stop running ur lyf ur 22 tell dem u aint a baby...
2007-01-23 04:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by phatface13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always be a baby in your parents eye. BUT, maybe they don't think you are responsible. Maybe you haven't shown them that you can be responsible and make good decisions. Start making good, responsible decisions and they will eventually leave you alone.
:)
2007-01-23 04:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is your oyster.
2007-01-23 04:38:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋