Anyone who has fallen in love knows that putting yourself back out there again is a hard thing to do. I am seeing this guy now that I care for deeply. He told me that he loves me, and after a hesitation, I said it back.
I do love him as a person...but I am scared to be in love with him. It's like a poker game when someone bets all they have...I don't know if I am willing to risk all that I have because I am so fragile right now.
The problem is...I am falling for him. I don't want to end the relationship because I am too insecure to handle it, so how can I be more comfortable with the situation? Should I just risk it? Or stop before I get hurt?
2007-01-23 04:16:56 · 22 answers · asked by Ali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is difficult to get back on the horse. but i will say if he's worth it go for it. don't keep your guard up and miss out on good thing. tell him that you care but would like to keep it slow right know. explain your concerns about your past. remember he's not the one that hurt and I'm sure he'll understand so i say give him a change I'm sure it'll be worth it
2007-01-23 04:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by golden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem....but I learned you need to do what makes you happy at that moment. Why not just live for the moment. Hopefully you won't get hurt again but why just let this person go if you care deeply for them. I just got out of a 3 year relationship and a week later I ran into this guy I have known since I was like 11 and I always had a crush on. Now a few months later he is my boyfriend and I know it's too soon but it makes me happy...he makes me happy and that's what I want. Live for today and don't worry so much about the future. I couldn't just stop talking to this guy b/c of the time frame in which I met him again....I would regret it...some things just happen. So what if you are falling for him, go with it. That's my advice! lol
2007-01-23 12:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop before you get hurt, since you are fragile right now. I am the same way. I just have a handful of people that I can go out with, that way, I don't have time to "fall" for anyone. I am afraid to put myself into a relationship again after my last relationship devestated me to the point that I cannot trust right now.
I didn't close up, but it made me more cautious of getting close to anyone again. Take it slower if you really like him like that. Take the time to have the trust build up.
Or, you can tell him that you just want to be friends and hang out occassionally while dating other people as well.
The choice is yours.
2007-01-23 12:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should protect your self. i mean if your playing soccer and you hurt your leg you wait until it gets better before you go back out there. You are right about the risk thing, you definetly would be taking a risk. Me, I couldnt do it!!! I have been hurt by the same guy alot, and every time i feel like i was almost there, If i would have let it go and not taken him back, and given my self time to heal, i would be fine by now.
2007-01-23 12:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most wonderful thing about love is how much it can claim you. It is so scary to allow yourself to be that vulnerable, but the payoff is so worth it. Knowing you can be totally devastated by the man you love but giving him your whole self is an incredible part of life not to be missed! Take the risk!
2007-01-23 12:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try speaking with him and communicate your fear to him. Relationship need not be rush. If time is what you need to feel secure, allow yourself to have it.
However, at the end of the day, everythings in life we undertake have risk. Is not fair for the other party to wait too long as well. You need to identify what you are looking for in the relationship for you to feel more comfortable. If it is just plain fear, you need to learn to conquer it before it cripple your love life.
2007-01-23 12:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by davis c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Life is too short. Take the risk. We all get hurt at some point in life. You cant be afraid to live.
2007-01-23 12:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to let someone know things are going to fast and you need to slow things down because you are not ready. when you are then move on, but when it comes down to it no one goes through life without getting hurt by the opposite sex. If you wanna find love you gotta put yourself out there.
2007-01-23 12:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by wutzcrackinb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone gets hurt here or there....but if ur never willing to take the risks then ur never gonna be in love how u want to be...just go with it and if u get hurt u get hurt but if not then it was well worth it.
2007-01-23 12:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by mr_fury666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and let him know about your insecurities. If he loves you, he will help calm your worries. It is understandable why you wan to pull away, but why loose out on an opportunity that may go even further?
2007-01-23 12:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by fatchay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋