My boyfriend thinks im chceating on him, and im not. but all of his friends are telling him that i am, just because he is always with me. what do i do? im not cheating on him or anything. what can i do to get him to trust me again, or even say i love you anymore?
2007-01-23 04:13:47 · 14 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And if you don't want to break up, but what is something i could maybe tell him or talk to him about to get him to trust me a little bit?
2007-01-23 04:40:38 · update #1
Break up with him. He's accusing you of cheating, which basically means he's calling you a ho-bag who lies and cheats. If there's no trust and he thinks you're a skank, why be with him?
2007-01-23 04:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't instill trust in your BF...he has to do this on his own..as it sounds as if he has deeply rooted trust issues to take his Friends word over yours. All you can do is tell him you are not cheating and talk about it to hopefully open up a better line of communication and strength in your relationship. Have a heart to heart with him and ask him what facts he has to go on that make him feel it may be true...then you will have at least a better idea of why he feels this way. If it is strictly just on his friends input...run in the other direction...this is not a stable guy who you should be investing in if that is the case!
2007-01-23 12:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by chick33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have told him you haven't cheated on him and he doesn't believe you and instead believes his friends, dump him. In a relationship trust is very essential. You are always going to be worried about not talking to any guy(even a simple hello because he think you might be getting it on). That's a horrible way of feeling and the only person that has to do anything is him. To get his act together and open his eyes. Don't waste your time trying to convince hm your not being unfaithful, its not worth it.Value yourself more.
2007-01-23 12:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to figure out why he is having this insecurity. maybe hes been cheated on before and has trust issues. if hes carrying that over into this relationship, then he needs to deal with that so it doesnt effect you 2. also, maybe hes one of those guys who will purposely sabotage the relationship because he doesnt have the balls to just break off like a real man. when they start accusing you with no reson at all- theyre done and just want to piss youoff enough so youll leave and he doesnt have to be the bad guy. talk to him and see whats what. good luck.
2007-01-23 12:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Draw a simple line for him and tell him that either he needs to trust you or get the hell out. if you cannot have trust, then you have nothing! Ask him what proof does he have anyways other than his friends telling him this? Ask if you have ever done anything that would make him think that you actually were.
2007-01-23 12:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by dudeinnorcal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is everything in any relationship and if he's believing his friends over you, then what does that tell you? Keep in mind that quite often, the person doing the accusing is the one who's cheating. If he won't believe you, then I'm affraid there is not much you can do.
2007-01-23 12:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only live your life in the manner you consider correct. If he doesn't accept that, then perhaps you should consider moving on. If he think's your cheating without any evidence to support it, then he has serious issues, likely insecurity based which could be much worse later.
2007-01-23 12:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows you're not cheating on him, so stop playing his game. This is his way of putting you on a guilt trip and then dropping you. Do yourself a favor and drop him first. You'll be a happier person.
2007-01-23 12:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me give you a little insite on that well there is one thing that you need to ask yourself how long can you take your man not trusting you??? if he doesnt trust you and if he say he doesnt beleive you then does he really love you???
2007-01-23 12:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by tawny s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Evidently, he is the one who is cheating if he keeps accusing you of doing it.
2007-01-23 12:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋