Is he just polite and "not that into me" ?? Please be frank.?

Question

I'm 35, professional female, single and I like this guy I know at my work he's 43 white professional male, seemingly single . We walk together along with two other colleagues every day. Last December (06) the two of us went out to see shows (twice) they were shows I had brought up and he said he was interested to see them so we went and saw them and he took me to dinner afterwards both times. But, he hasn't asked me out yet. He hasn't called even though he has my cell phone number(and he sees me at work every day). Today, as we were walking (it was just the two of us today, the other two couldn't make it), I asked him if he has heard about a movie, blood and chocolate, and he said he may have read about it and as we were talking about the movie, I said I'd like to see it because it sounded different and he said "ok if you're interested we can go see it this weekend. Think about it"!!Then we decided Saturday will be a better day. Will he confirm? Should I? Is he just being polite?

He DID confirm (twice) !! so tomorrow, I'm going to his house and then we'll go to see the movie and then we'll go out to dinner.

HELP! Is he just nice????

Answer 1

That is confusing! He could just be trying to be polite, or maybe he is shy and unsure of your feelings about him? Perhaps you should just ask him, point blank and get it over with. It may be embarrassing, but at least then you'll know.

Answer 2

No, I don't think he's just being polite. I mean you guys go out together and I know he spends money. Is there some race insecurities that your having? By you saying that your 35 and single, but made sure to put his race with his age gave me the idea that your of color. Maybe he's a little old fashioned, or since you always set the tone on your weekends he might be waiting for you to say something. Now what you can do is, when you go out together talk about why he doesn't have anyone. You just might find what your looking, or listening for.( you sound like a very confident woman, so you confirm!!)

Answer 3

well do you know if he's seeing anyone? seems polite but why would he spend so much time with you? then again all 3 events you brought them up...do you get any kind of vibes from him that makes you think he might be interested? Maybe he's not sure how to ask you out... I'd say go out to the movies and see what happens this time...call it "3 strikes you're out" If he doesn't make a move after this ten know he's just looking for a friend...He might not be into girls either so you could be like a "gurlfriend" instead of a girlfriend...no what I mean?

Answer 4

I say go for it! I think he likes u, he just may either be afraid of rejection or a little shy. It sounds like he wants to spend time with you if he asked u to go to the movie with him. I have found this one thing to be true with the little amount of time I have spent dating...men are very, very , very afraid of rejection. So if u open it up and just casually say something about it on maybe Thurs. or Fri. like "oh hey, by the way are we still on for Sat.?", that will show him u definitely want to go. Just make sure you act cool about it. Don't sweat it if he doesn't give u an answer right then. And if he doesn't answer you...don't bring it up again. With most men, even his age, if u get too excited it's a big turn off. I mean who wants someone who is easy? Men like a challenge.
The point is to casually let him know u are interested and let him make the next move. And if you guys do go on this date and he doesn't say anything by the end of the night, but you would like to see him again, then u leave it open by saying something like "I had a really good time tonight...I would love to go out again sometime." And let him make the next move. Good luck!

Answer 5

well it could be that he is being nice because he likes you as a friend or he's being nice because he likes you. with guys you have to read inbetween the lines. the best thing to do is to ask him what he sees you as. a freind or potentially more. if he asks why just say that you were curious and wanted to know.if he tells you just a friend then i am sorry because he seems like a nice guy but you get a good friend out of it. but if he says potentially more than HOORAY!!!! grab him up because nice guys are hard to find.if he asks you how you see him save it til after he answers just tell him that you asked him first. don't hold back but if he says just friends let him know that you are happy to have such a great friend.good luck!!!

Answer 6

Hmm, this is tricky. My gut feeling is that he likes you but is wary of getting too close to a co-worker. You know how workplace romances can get troublesome! And you have to remember that sometimes guys are scared to make the first move because what if you misconstrue it somehow and accuse him of sexual harassment? Big risk there. I say, ask HIM out one time and then see if he reciprocates. If he doesn't, then I think you'll know that you have a great friendship but perhaps no romantic chemistry. If he does, then great! Etiher way, it's great that you are getting to know each other as friends first. Good luck!

Answer 7

I think he is just being polite. Have you asked him was he seeing anyone? If not you should. I think that it is a good thing that he is being polite, maybe he wants to know if you are seeing anyone. Why don't you bring this topic up at dinner after the movie, that way, at least you'll know.

Answer 8

I think you should just relax. You're acting way too eager and it sounds like maybe he isn't that interested but he took you mentioned the movie as your way of asking him out. I say let it go and let him do what he's going to do.

Answer 9

Well some guys are like that. They want the women to make all the decisions. He could just be shy about dateing. He might just want to be good freinds or be scared of rejection.

Answer 10

So far it sounds like you are making all the moves.I would write him off as casual date.If he were really interested ,you would be able to sense it when you are near him.