Sex question. Is it bad if...?

Question

Is it bad if a guy wont climax?
I've started seeing this girl that i'm starting to really fall for. We've had sex twice, but i haven't managed to climax. She's really good. And keeps trying to make me ***, but i can't seem to.
I guess it's better than ejaculating real fast. But what's going on! She was pretty down about it. Asked me why I wont ***. And thought she wasn't good enough. But she's the best i've ever been with. Is this a massive turn off for her? She said to me i'm too strong and smiled. I don't know what this means in *womanese*

Any help and replies on this would be great.

Answer 1

Is it a "massive turn-off" (your words)? Well, it's pretty crushing to a woman's sense of self if her partner doesn't climax -- just as it is if a man's partner can't achieve orgasm.

Regarding the "you're too strong" remark: I suspect she meant that you hold yourself back (for whatever reason), that you're not allowing yourself to feel. To me, that is not a source of strength at all; rather, it's a sign of someone in deep self-protection mode, and I'm sorry if that's the case.

Several times you remarked that she's good, she's the best, etc. etc. Are you trying to talk yourself into feelings you don't genuinely have for her? If so, the relationship will be fraught with disappointment, pain, and confusion -- for both of you.

I hope you're able to sort out this situation, get your needs met, and find what you're looking for in life and love.

Answer 2

well it depends on the woman I guess if she thinks it's her than it might be bad but just let her know how much you want her.... look I had to read a lot of books on the matter to find ways to get control of ejaculating for the most part I would say 85% of the time I can stop it from happening and yes sometimes when I want to it won't or at least I am not able to control it some times the women get mad but most like it the first few times it gives them the chance to get off several times before the sex stops some women then get tired and even start hurting cause it is taking too long... cramps do happen durring sex....anyway there can also be a medical reason; biologically your parts have to be hot enough (tempature wise) to ejaculate so it could be that there is heat escaping you guys when your together or simply that she is just much faster at getting there than your member is used to...and yet another reason could be a malfunction in your body are you feeling any pain or discomfort when you urinate or during sex if so see a urologist ASAP

Answer 3

First of all, I'm not sure what "You're too strong" and a smile means. Could mean something physically hurt her; could be she's somehow trying to make you feel better about the lack of climax.

If this has never happened before, I'm guessing it's not a physical problem, it's a mental one. Do you like this girl more than you realize? Deep down, does it make you feel disrespectful of her to treat her as you've treated all those who meant less to you? Are you really afraid of hurting her? Are you really actually turned off by something about her, despite your other good feelings for her?

If the problem persists, start by seeing an M.D. and go from there. Be honest, tell him everything; doctors have heard/seen much worse.

On the other hand, maybe you and she want to slow down, make more of your mental/intellectual/emotional relationship and put the physical relationship on the back burner. Discover the many, many other ways you can have fun together and get to know each other. Might be worth it, this time.

Answer 4

Oh no,It's never bad.When she said to you that you are strong and she smiled,you know she likes it more.She is coming up she wants you to **** her faster.
With all your strength take your cock in and out as fast as possibe without pause and she will be coming to climax and will tell you to release your hot stuff into her.When you do this she will shower you kissing and feel heavenly joy.You too will reciprocate the same.My dear enjoy sex and make her happy.Have a good funny time!!!!!

Answer 5

Ive had this problem, it comes and goes, are you taking any new medication? If so read the labels.

Sometimes for months at a time I cant really get off, ive seen a doctor he said everything checked out ok.

My advise, see a doctor it might be medical, look at the labels your taking on any new meds and just deal with it, most women I was with really liked that I couldnt get off because I always got them off a bunch of times.

Answer 6

i think there is a chemistry between both of you.
you have to relax when you are doing it,have her stop and touch you where you are turn on,and don't be too anxious about ejaculating because it can sometimes become difficult if you are too worried about it.
just keep your mind on the good stuff and how it make you feel,when it's fine you can ejaculate which is better than ejaculating too early.

Answer 7

I hate to answer a question with a question, but: Can you climax by yourself? Does she use her hands to help? Does she use her mouth? Do you have enough experience with different women to know what pleases you? If you answered yes to the questions, then its probably psychological.

Answer 8

It happens. The first few times with my future wife I had that situation myself. I had longed for her for a long time and I think I was just in awe of actually being with her. After I relaxed things went just fine.

Answer 9

sometimes if the girl is TOO good, youll distract yourself so you dont c-u-m too quick and maybe you focus so hard doing it, that its difficult to switch back when its time to release. i'd say read up on it and reassure her that it isnt her fault so she doesnt feel bad. try and alternate like oral first, then intercourse. maybe the different intensities will help you get off,

Answer 10

1 your get to old to have sex

2 maybe U need to see a doctor

3 buy some pills