i love her i need her and she loves me what do i do?

Question

well i had been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years am 20 and she's 19 years old.it all started a few weeks before christmas my dad dint like my girlfriend to much and told me that i needed to dump her else i cant live with him anymore. so i told my dad to stick it am 20 years old not 14.. so i moved out and moved to my m8's house.then i told my gf that she needed to change the way she was and not just spend time watching tv everyday except weekends wen she wud go shopping.i just wanted her to get a hobbie thats it so we ended there and then..now i want her back so bad but she wont text or answer my calls at all i know she still loves me but she says we cant get back together and that we can only be MSN mate's lol.but its not just that her dad has taken controlle i know her to well and shes a loving person then 1 day i got the police ringing me saying i need to leave her alone else i will be arrested...am joining the army soon and i told her ill be back to marry her after the trainin

and she never said anything to that.but a few weeks before i seen my ex gf after my m8 had let her in are house. we got chatting and so at the end of the day she grabbed me and kissed me i stopped it and told her about my gf things then never went any futher. i then told my gf who was very upset about this and dint want to talk to me or anything i know what you lot are going to say (move on with your life)but its that simple we have done way to much in the 2 years (holidays,outing's,family fuctions,lots more) but am up for joining the army in march she was the whole reason i was doing this so we cud get marryed and always be together and that so we can better r selfs.like i stated her dad is stoppin everything i know this is not her actions she is listening to what ever her dad says thats understandable.but i will be coming back after my training and ill be at her door in my uniform and on my knee cos shes my life...but what do i do about her dad ask him out 4 a drink and speak aboutit

Answer 1

What you talk about sounds a lot like infatuation and I dont think thats 'love' in the lifelong sense. You're young - there will be other girls. I think you should work on your relationship with your own dad first, family should always come first.

Answer 2

The police, huh? Sounds like ur g/f dumped u. I was 19 when I had my son, who is now in the USAF at that same age, 19. So many ppl told me I was ruining my life by having my son. I didn't know what they meant by that til YEARS later. Just as I'm telling you, ur too young for this kind of dysfunction. Please move on. It's not the fact ur lips touched ur ex, it's the fact ur x was even at ur moms house to begin with. And police don't call ur house to tell u to leave "the girl alone" unless it's her daddy's friend. Other wise they serve you papers called a protective order, ordering u to leave her alone. The army? R u ready for the emotional humdrum of bootcamp? This girl is pulling ur leg and ur letting her. U stay away, stop ALL contact including internet! See if she contact U. Then u will know if SHE loves u back. I'm afraid for u, dude. If ur arrested before boot camp or right afterwards...NOT good. Talk to a minister or therapist and get this OUT before going to bootcamp or u'll have an even Worse BOOTCAMP EXPERIENCE.

Answer 3

Doesn't sound like she loves you that much, bud...Try to get back together with her before the training, then marry her after.

Answer 4

asking her dad out for a drink will make things worse (remember he doesn't like you) so you just ask him can you and him talk man to man

Answer 5

dude, you already had thepolicce on you, get over her, and find someone new. Take your time, and find your Soul Mate, it will be worth the wait.