why do some small children hit or even bite there parents?

Answer 1

small children have no control over their emotions like anger or frustration, an adult would air anger and frustration with talking/shouting to vent but small children cannot do this, therefor they show it the only way they know how, to hit or bite or scratch. Doing it back does not stop the child from doing this it only reinforces the behaviour because they think it's the correct way to go about things because the adult is doing it to, lead by example.

Answer 2

If kids are not given rules and boundaries and are not disciplined by their parents, they will find a way to try and force their parents to set rules and discipline them. Children want structure, they want to know what the limit is for their bad behavior, they want to be able to predict what their parents will do if they misbehave. If their parents are not clear, they will act out physically as a cry for help, begging their parents to step up and be a parent. I taught preschool for several years and dealt with lots of children that bit and hit other children and their own parents. One mother came to me once and said , "I just don't understand. Our house is so tranquil and stress free." Translation, we let our child do whatever the heck she wants to do because it's more important that we not make her angry by expecting her to behave, we want to her friend not her parent, blah blah blah. I suggested that the house was too tranquil and that they needed to be more firm in their discipline and routine of the day. Luckily she heard me and took it into consideration, they made adjustments at home and the child's behavior changed dramatically.

Answer 3

I have 2 small children and when they hit and bite me it is usually because they are not getting what they want and this is the only way they know how to tell you they are not happy.

Answer 4

all toddlers usually go threw this but you have too teach them that hitting and biting is not nice the kid usually will act out when they dont get there way. but its the parents job to correct bad behavior. but when a kid smacks or hits smacking back wont teach them its bad. just say no dont do that and try time out.

Answer 5

I can't speak for everyone but sometimes...
around age 2 children can think, but can't talk well. they get frustraited when they can't find the word to say what they want to say and throw tantrums. sometimes this includes hitting and biting.
parents just need to try and relax them when they begin to get frustraited. even though its good to let kis think on their own- and not speak for them- sometimes parents/adults need to know when to supply a word for a child. they just can't supply them with words and answers all the time.

Answer 6

Because the parents allow them to! Mine never either bit or hit me.

Answer 7

Usally it's frustration and the inability to communicate. If it persists try splashing their face with water right after they bite. It worked for me and them.

Answer 8

Because their parents let them get away with it.
"Back in the day" when I was little, and I mean like 2, I walked up to my mom, put my head on her lap, turned my head and bit her in the leg. She bit me back (in the upper arm), yeah, there was a mark for a few days, but there was one on her leg, too. And you know what? I never bit anyone again (until I started dating my ex, but that's another topic!).
I'm not saying every parent needs to adopt this method, and it would certainly be reportable abuse now days, but there's nothing wrong with making rules and enforcing them.

Answer 9

discipline is the key here, teach them more ways to release their anger, however sometimes children get angry for nonsense reasons like not getting that pudding or that soda. thats where you have to be strong and discipline them for misbehaving.

Answer 10

Usually because they don't have the vocabulary yet to express their frustrations so they act out. Imagine wanting to say something but not knowing how to say it.