For the past 4 months i've been babysitting my 18 month old cousin, and everything was going smoothly. Spring Semester has started up again at my local community college. and i decided to enroll in some classes. but the toll of babysitting and then running to school is already starting to run havoc i'm barely staying afloat with homework and such. but i don't have the heart to tell my aunt that i can't babysit anymore. does anyone know what i could possibly do.
2007-01-23 03:44:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sweety,
how old are you???? the 1st thing u must learn in life is that to do what u want to do; U HAVE TO BE HONEST WITH EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE IN YOUR LIFE. starting with U, yourself and U.......
tell the truth , it only hurts the person hearin it --- not you.if it hurts the person hearing it; then they have the problem, not U. u work it out and move on. if THEY can't, move on anyway......
this is not your child. love it, help it; but its not YOUR place to sacrifice-- FIRST!
2007-01-26 09:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy90028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but it doesn't sound like you're too overwhelmed to handle all this. Last semester I had 18 hours, a job, and I babysat my nephew who just turned 2 so I guess he would have been around 18 months at the time. He was fine to sit in the floor and play or nap while I did homework. I kept an eye on him the entire time.
What I'm saying is that your classes have just started and you haven't found your groove yet. It's not your cousin's fault or your aunt's fault that you don't think you can handle it. You CAN handle it, you just don't think you can because you've never had a full load before.
Your education is important but so is family. You can most definitely do both at the same time, so stick it and, enjoy your cousin, and make good grades.
2007-01-23 12:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by smack_me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Going to school is great, helping out babysitting is also great. But your education is important, your future depends on it. Talk to your aunt about setting up a system, maybe another babysitter when you do your homework and when you are at school. I'm sure your aunt will understand that going to school and babysitting is hard work.
2007-01-23 11:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just act like its a normal job. Give your aunt a two week notice so she has time to get someone else. You might even be able to recommend a friend to take over for you.
Do not wait until it effects your school work or gets so frustrating that you just don't show up one day. (to school or to babysitting)
While your aunt might be upset that she is losing a good babysitter, she should be happy for you that you are trying to better your life with school.
2007-01-23 11:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by my little pony 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's hard being all things to all people...and it's also a good way to toatally run yourself down...i would explain to your aunt that you love babysitting, but you just have too much on your plate right now and need to focus on your school work....i would give her a week or two to make other arrangements and if you feel up to it or if you wanted to you could maybe just babysit once a week or a couple hours a couple days a week-whatever your schedule allows...it's important to learn to say "no" ...of course nobody is happy hearing no (we'd all love it if everyone did everything our way all the time), and you're not really saying "no" , you're just being selective about saying "yes".....just because you can't fill all your aunt's babysitting needs doesn't mean you won't be able to say "yes" every now and then to help out.....either way you are saying "no" to some-one: you're either saying no to your aunt and focusing on your school or you're saying no to yourself and your education....personally i'd rather say no to some-one else....it's always unpleasant when we feel we're maybe "letting some-one down", but most people understand that everyone has limitations on what they are capable of doing.....good luck and congrats on going back to school
2007-01-23 12:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your aunt isnt a hateful and evil bisnach you wont or shouldnt have any problem telling her, she should be happy that you are trying to go to college, and she will understand that you cant babysit all the timje anymore, and the truth is that if she does get mad at you, she didnt deserve your help in the first place.
2007-01-23 12:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by cridec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell her. Those courses will lead to a better future for you. She has had 4 months of no fuss child care. As a working adult, that's a luxury most people don't have.
2007-01-23 11:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know another trustworthy friend?? tellur aunt that as much as u like babysitting ur cousin u need to suceed in school but i would find her a replacement first if u can!!
2007-01-23 12:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your aunt and tell her exactly what you told us. I think she'll understand. If she cares about you (and I'm sure she does) she'll want you to be in college and working to improve your life.
2007-01-23 11:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Aunt. She won't be annoyed or hate you.
2007-01-23 11:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋