Sunday I was supposed to go out with my girlfreind too see some of her freinds however I'd spent all week partying and going out, + I was sort of grumbly cause one of my best freinds has left for California (I live in France) so I decided to stay at home cause I was tired. Since then she won't talk to me. Am I a jerk, or is she sort of overeacting? Anyone know what I should do?
2007-01-23 03:43:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI I was partying while she was away to see one of her freinds for the WE...
2007-01-23 03:50:59 · update #1
...Just partying
2007-01-23 03:56:48 · update #2
you are not a jerk...you are a fine fella.........and i applaud your assertive independence, as you need to think of yourself once in a while, and you owe yourself some rest if you are tired from your busy week's obligations. SHE is overacting , yes...she is making a mountain of a molehill, she is not being inany way understanding and kind, as you undoubedtly are to her.....don't lose any sleep on this one my dear.
2007-01-23 03:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by marysoilex 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a little bit of both. You were a jerk, but she shouldn't overreact the way she is. Next time live up to your obligations, and she won't feel so blown off. Tell her you're sorry but she can't ignore you forever.
2007-01-23 11:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Face 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that would depend on whether or not this kind of thing is common within your relationship,,you OR her letting the other down.it doesnt sound like a big deal but give a take means just that,,give AND take and sometimes we all have to do things we would rather not because it is important to our partners,,it is one of the things we need to love each other and feel our needs are important to each other,would it have killed you to go or was your need more worthy of consideration than hers?
2007-01-23 11:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just partying, or cheating? I'll assume you weren't cheating. You're both "wrong". If you knew you had plans, you should've stayed in. But, hey, stuff happens. Her disappointment is not unjust, but she should chill a little.
2007-01-23 11:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a jerk for that but a bit selfish if you didn't consider telling her that you couldn't make it for whatever the reason before the deadline. If you did tell her before then she is over reacting.
2007-01-23 11:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you hurt her feeling by choosing friends over her. Try apoligizing(if you are sorry) and if you haven't already explained about the friend moving away I think you should, it may help! Good Luck!
2007-01-23 11:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by justanotherday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was planning it for a while then you screwed up, obviously it was important to her. Just say sorry and take them all out next weekend.
2007-01-23 11:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know what you should do.
Make a choice!
Choose your girlfriend or choose to drink and party without her.
Without realizing it, you embarrassed her in front of her friends.
So no! She is not overreacting.
She is hurt and does not want to go through this again.
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2007-01-23 11:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is overreacting, unless you do this to her often. If this is common for you, then she is just fed up and probably trying to decide what to do next.
2007-01-23 11:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on weather you made plans with your friends or girlfriend first
2007-01-23 11:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋