if you pass out from drinking and wake up with someone, is that your own fault or can you be taken advantaged?

Question

of. I mean, granted I understand when you drink you're responsible for what happens, but something doesn't seem right..

Answer 1

i have a story for u.

my girlfriend, the one i love with all my heart.. before me and her were together... she went to this party, had a few drinks... once she had a few.. her so called "friend" talked her into smoking weed. once she smoked weed... she drank more... she wakes up in the morning, with no pants on... and in bed with a 19 year old, scared to death (she was FOURTEEN YEARS OLD)... and her and her friend... are on a video tape of the men taking their pants off.. this is all she remembers... this has scarred me, and her for life.. my pride and joy, raped, and a victim of child pornography.

my friend from school last year, which was in 8th grade at the time... had gotten really drunk at a party, and she got genital herpes, from an 18 year old heartless enough first off to take advantage of her.. but to do it unprotected... this just scares me to death...

never drink at parties, unless you know everyone who is there, and have osmene to drink with that u trust... this might be u someday, please dont do it.

as for myself. I have almost died because of this drinking. As a 14 year old boy, i found myself at home... crying... and drinking... drinkin had made me so depressed.. and i found myself relying on it. I almost drank myself to death. I drank a litre of whiskey, a pint of vodka.. and its a miracle im alive. just 2 days ago... i was kicked out of my house. because i cant stop. i drank alone last night, and blacked out... i had a fifth of vodka. this was at 2 in the afternoon, i should have been at school.. i am told i left the house, with a t shirt on.. in freezing temperature.. trying to go home. i didnt find myself home.. but someone had picked me up.. and took me to where i am staying. i have cuts and bruises all over me.. from fallin on the sidewalks.. and what not. i should have froze to death.. i am in rehab starting thursday..

drinking is lethal... this isnt the grea tthing everyone makes it to be.. it ruins families.

Answer 2

I am glad to hear that you understand the concept of responsibility ( drinking is not a responsible act ) If you must drink, why not try sipping on one......or have a buddy system with someone. Someone who not only understands the concept but will also live it. You are putting yourself in danger every time you make the decision to have one more. Yes it is your own fault...unless someone held you down and forced the drink into your mouth. It is also the fault of the person who took advantage of you. However, we are all responsible for our own actions. You and the other person in question. If you are a minor and need help please please talk with someone you trust. You need to get help..I know that I may have come on strong at first but the fact is that you need to stop drinking and if you don't get some help you will become a statistic. please, you are worth more than you seem to believe right now. There are better things for you than a night of party and a morning of sorrow. May God give you the courage to get the help you need. You will like yourself better and you will be a better person for it. It takes courage to ask and if you don't ask you won't get.Go ahead I dare you to love yourself as God loves you. Get Help, please Who knows, you may be the very person who will help someone else in the future. Believe it, go for it and open the door to life!

Answer 3

you could ahve been drugged.

i am pretty sure i was drugged once. i was at a bar with some friends and yes, i had a few drinks and probably shouldn't have driven, however, i've had MUCH MORE to drink that i did that night and drove home just fine....
anyway...
i was talking to my boyfriend on the phone as i was driving and i came to on the side of the road, the opposite direction from town and my bf's friend was trying to get me into his car to take me home (bf was in another state at the time).

i had gotten sick all over the car and myself and was a total wreck. i don't remember a thing and i have no idea how i got to where i was. it was awful and i hate talking about it b/c i could have died or killed someone else.

myself, my bf and my bf's friend all think that i was slipped something at the bar (the bar is known to have this happen there).

it sounds cliched, but it does happen.

whether i was drugged or not...it would have still been my responsibility if something had happened.

so...yes, it's possible for someone to take advantage of a situation, but the other person needs to own up to the fact that they got out of control.

take care.

Answer 4

Well, it isn't right, but it's still your own fault. (I don't know if your question is rhetorical or you are the one who got drunk and woke up with a stranger...but for now we will assume "you" to be the hypothetical drunk in your question....don't take this personally:)

You know the effects of drinking from the get-go. In fact, that's usually why people over-indulge. They WANT to drink to the point of oblivion. They call it fun, but it's really all about trying to kill pain on the inside.

So, if you knowingly relinquish control over your own spirit and body, then YOU have opened yourself up to whoever and whatever is around you that might abuse and use you. And why not? You certainly are abusing and using yourself in a terrible manner, so why shouldn't everyone else?

You gotta love and protect yourself first. If you have control of your faculties, and "just say no", but the person forces you to have sex anyway, THAT is rape and you're a victim.

If you drink until you don't even know what you're doing or who you're with, then you are no longer a victim, you're just an idiot.

(That will probably get me some thumb-downs, but it is the truth.)

Answer 5

It depends one what happened, it's a bad thing to get so drunk that you pass out and wake up in someone elses bed, but you did drink too much, but if the other person took advantage of you in that situation, such as trying to have intercourse while you were passed out then that is totally wrong and should be reported as rape. Granted you should not have drank that much, but the other person should have had enough sense to not try anything with you while you were in that condition. So it is not the drunk persons fault, but the person who is trying to take advantage of a drunk person.

Answer 6

Both. You were responsible for getting so drunk so that you weren't aware of what was happening, and must make amends for any damages you caused while intoxicated (drunk driving collision, hitting someone, getting someone pregnant, whizzing on your neighbor's lawn, etc)... but someone could also take advantage of you in your inebriated state, and convince you to do something against your better judgment (have sex with a stranger, sign a legal document, sell you something, etc).

Answer 7

If you pass out from drinking and someone has sex with you, they are taking advantage of you. Whether or not it was rape depends on whether or not you intended to have sex with them before drinking and were drinking to loosen your own inhibitions. If something doesn't seem right, you may have had your drink spiked. It would take a blood test to determine if you were drugged and with what. From there you would have the burden of porving who drugged you.

Answer 8

A real gentleman would *never* take advantaged of a lady that had a couple too many.

Answer 9

If you are too drunk to say "yes", then it is a NO. The person took advantage of you, and the law will agree with you.

Answer 10

In many states, the technical definition of "rape" includes being taken advantage of sexually when you're drunk..